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As Kobe Bryant once said, “There is power in understanding the journey of others to help create your own.” That’s why the Learning Leader Show exists—to understand the journeys of other leaders so that we can better understand our own. This show is full of learnings taught by world-class leaders—personal stories of successes, failures, and lessons learned along the way. Our guests come from diverse backgrounds—CEOs of multi-billion dollar companies, best-selling authors, Navy SEALs, and professional athletes. My role in this endeavor is to talk to the most thoughtful, accomplished, and intentional leaders in the world so that we can learn from them as we each create our own journeys.
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Jul 10, 2022

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  • Leaders have nothing in common. They don’t share gender or income level or geography. There’s no gene, no schooling, no parentage, no profession. In other words, leaders aren’t born with it. Actually, they do have one thing in common. "Every tribe leader I’ve ever met shares one thing: the decision to lead. Leadership is a choice."
  • Great Stories – Great stories are rarely aimed at everyone. Average people are good at ignoring you. Average people have too many different points of view about life and average people are by and large satisfied. If you need to water down your story to appeal to everyone, it will appeal to no one. The most effective stories match the world view of a tiny audience—and then that tiny audience spreads the story.
  • Really Bad PowerPoint  - Powerpoint could be the most powerful tool on your computer. But it’s not. Countless innovations fail because their champions use PowerPoint the way Microsoft wants them to, instead of the right way. Communication is the transfer of emotion. make slides that reinforce your words, not repeat them. Create slides that demonstrate, with emotional proof, that what you’re saying is true not just accurate. Talking about pollution in Houston? Instead of giving me four bullet points of EPA data, why not read me the stats but show me a photo of a bunch of dead birds, some smog, and even a diseased lung? This is cheating! It’s unfair! It works.
  • Define Brand – Seth's definition: A brand is the set of expectations, memories, stories, and relationships that, taken together, account for a consumer’s decision to choose one product or service over another.
  • Linchpin — the combination of passion and art is what makes someone a linchpin.
  • Gifts — there are 2 reasons to give gifts. One is reciprocity. You give so that someone feels like they owe you something. That is manipulative and no way to build a career. The second reason is fascinating. Gifts allow you to make art. Gifts are given with no reciprocity hoped for or even possible. The paintings of Chuck Close - the gift he gives with no possibility of reciprocity gives him room to be in charge. Room to find joy. Because when he’s painting he’s not punching a time clock or trying to please someone who bought his time. He’s creating a gift. My fundamental argument is simple. In everything you do, it’s possible to be an artist, at least a little bit.
  • “How To Be Remarkable”
    • Remarkable doesn’t mean remarkable to you. It means remarkable to me. Am I going to make a remark about it? If not, then you’re average, and average is for losers.
    • It's not really as frightening as it seems. They keep the masses in line by threatening them (us) with all manner of horrible outcomes if we dare to step out of line. But who loses their jobs at the mass layoffs? Who has trouble finding a new gig? Not the remarkable minority, that's for sure.
  • Lost in all the noise around us is the proven truth that creativity is the result of desire. A Desire to solve an old problem, a desire to serve someone else. It’s not a bolt of lightning from somewhere else...
  • The difference between talent and skill: Talent is something we’re born with: it’s in our DNA, a magical alignment of gifts. Skill is earned. It’s learned and practiced and hard-won. It’s insulting to call a professional talented. In the words of Steve Martin, “I had no talent. None.”
  • If you want to change your story, change your actions first. We become what we do.
  • Practical Empathy -- “We have to be able to say, ‘it’s not for you’ and mean it. The work exists to serve someone, to change someone, to make something better.
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Guest: David M. Rubenstein is Co-Founder and Co-Chairman of The Carlyle Group, one of the world’s largest and most successful private investment firms. Established in 1987, Carlyle now manages $325 billion from 26 offices around the world. David is the host of The David Rubenstein Show: Peer-to-Peer Conversations on Bloomberg TV and PBS and Bloomberg Wealth with David Rubenstein on Bloomberg TV; and the author of The American Story: Conversations with Master Historians, a book published by Simon & Schuster in 2019, How to Lead: Wisdom from the World's Greatest CEOs, Founders, and Game Changers, a book published in 2020, and The American Experiment: Dialogues on a Dream, a book published in 2021.

Notes:

  • How David defines success - “Other people tell you that what you’ve done is useful. They admire you. And you help people.”
  • David's goals:
    • Don't do anything to get in public trouble
    • Give away the bulk of his money
  • 4 Key Decisions David made that helped him:
    • Going to law school
    • Working in the Carter White House
    • Starting the Carlyle Group
    • Becoming a philanthropist
  • Why The Carlyle Group?
    • "I fell in love with building something from scratch."
  • "Great ideas don't come from people who are busy."
  • Why does David enjoy interviewing leaders?
    • It gives him an opportunity to follow his intellectual curiosity
  • How does he prepare for his interviews?
    • Reads their books
    • Gets help from a research assistant
    • Digests all the material
    • Writes questions
    • Looks for humor opportunities
  • Humor breaks the tension and produces a common bond
    • "John Kennedy had a great sense of humor."
  • David has lent his home in Nantucket to President Biden.
  • Benjamin Franklin said, "it's a republic if you can keep it." Republics are not easy to keep.
  • David had the opportunity to invest in Facebook when Mark Zuckerberg was in college... But he said no.
  • The keys to the Wright Brother's Success --
    • Tons of books in their house growing up
    • Their inquisitive nature
    • Their passion to prove a point
  • Commonalities of excellent leaders:
    • Vision
    • Determination - must walk the walk
    • Influence others
    • Communication skill
    • Humility
    • Highly ethical
    • Doesn't need all the credit
    • Higher goals than just money
  • Persist – don’t take no for an answer. If you’re happy to sit at your desk and not take any risk, you’ll be sitting at your desk for the next 20 years.
  • "What do most people say on their deathbed? They don't say, 'I wish I'd made more money.' What they say is, 'I wish I'd spent more time with my family and done more for society or my community."
  • "Moneymaking was never anything to me. I was happy never making money; I just was happy doing things I liked. But I fell into the money thing. I now don't feel guilty about it, but I am determined to give away the bulk of it and enjoy doing it."
  • "Anybody who gives away money is mostly looking at things where they think they can make a difference. I'm trying to help people who helped me, educational institutions that helped me with scholarships, or organizations that were very useful to me in growing up."
  • "It's clear to me that when you do private equity well, you're making companies more efficient and helping them grow and become more profitable. That success means our investors - such as public pension funds - benefit, which contributes to the economic wealth of society."
  • "I regard food as fuel. I am not a brunch person."
  • Life and Career advice:
    • Find something you enjoy
    • Experiment
    • Read
    • Keep an open mind
Jun 26, 2022

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Susan Cain is the #1 bestselling author of Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole and Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, which spent eight years on The New York Times best-seller list, and has been translated into 40 languages. Susan’s TED talks have been viewed over 40 million times. LinkedIn named her the Top 6th Influencer in the World, just behind Richard Branson and Melinda French Gates. Susan partners with Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, and Dan Pink to curate the Next Big Idea Book Club.

Notes:

  • "Compassion means to suffer together."
  • How to use sadness? "Make the pain your creative offering."
    • To suffer with other beings brings people together.
  • When people are grieving the loss of a loved one, they often want to talk about that person.
  • Aristotle wondered why the great poets, philosophers, artists, and politicians often have melancholic personalities… his question was based on the ancient belief that the human body contains 4 humors: each corresponding to a different temperament - melancholic (sad), sanguine (happy), choleric (aggressive), and phlegmatic (calm).
  • Joseph Campbell said, “We should strive to participate joyfully in the sorrows of the world.”
  • Connecting with what matters and taking committed action—moves us from bitter to sweet, from loss to love.” Everyone experiences loss. It is part of the human condition. How have you moved “from bitter to sweet, from loss to love”? Are there coping strategies you recommend?
  • The bittersweet quiz — 1-10. If you scored between 5.8 and 10, you’re a true connoisseur of bittersweetness: the place where light and dark meet.
    • Questions: Do you tear up easily at touching TV commercials? Are you especially moved by old photographs? Do you react intensely to music, art, or nature? Have others described you as an old soul? Do you find comfort or inspiration on a rainy day? Are you moved to goosebumps several times a day? Do you feel elevated by sad music? Do you tend to see the happiness and sadness in things, all at once? Do you seek out beauty in your everyday life?" (I scored a 7.1)
  • “The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply.”
  • “The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply.”
  • “There's zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.”
  • “If we could honor sadness a little more, maybe we could see it—rather than enforced smiles and righteous outrage—as the bridge we need to connect with each other. We could remember that no matter how distasteful we might find someone’s opinions, no matter how radiant, or fierce, someone may appear, they have suffered, or they will.”
  • “The secret that our poets and philosophers have been trying to tell us for centuries, is that our longing is the great gateway to belonging.”
  • “The tragedy of life is linked inescapably with its splendor; you could tear civilization down and rebuild it from scratch, and the same dualities would rise again. Yet to fully inhabit these dualities—the dark as well as the light—is, paradoxically, the only way to transcend them. And transcending them is the ultimate point. The bittersweet is about the desire for communion, the wish to go home.”
  • “Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”
  • Life and Career advice:
    • You have to find a way to do it. Life can sweep you up quickly.
    • Establish a backup plan. It frees you up to be more creative.
    • Develop rituals for writing... Purely with pleasure.
Jun 19, 2022

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Steve Holmes founded Springfree Trampoline in 2003 and has overseen its growth to almost 400 employees globally. He is responsible for strategic business development and leads growth initiatives worldwide. Springfree® Trampoline, the World's Safest Trampoline™, was introduced in 2003, and available in Australia in 2004. Dr. Keith Alexander re-designed the trampoline from the ground up to invent Springfree Trampoline, over fifteen years of research and development.

Notes:

  • I hope that customers describe Springfree as a company which has integrity, honesty, great character, and deals with its customers in a way that values their experience with the brand and the product, and delivers on the promises they make.
  • Living in the tension of competing priorities. This is the job of the leader. It’s happening at all times both at work and at home. We must be aware of and understand how to live in that tension.
  • Your working genius - Jim has learned that his sense of wonder and invention is what brings him the most joy. We have to know what lights us up in order to sustain excellence over time.
  • Responding to losing the Costco account. Steve called the Jim Sinegal and worked out how the relationship would end and then immediately planned for the future to keep his company in business.
  • "The greatest piece of marketing is our customers."
  • How to find your purpose: Ikigai is a Japanese concept that means your 'reason for being. ' 'Iki' in Japanese means 'life,' and 'gai' describes value or worth. Your ikigai is your life purpose or your bliss. It's what brings you joy and inspires you to get out of bed every day.
  • Life is about giving so that others will benefit.
  • The C's of business
    • Clarity
    • Competency
    • Confidence
    • Choice
  • "The pace of change is faster than the pace of learning."
  • Sustained excellence:
    • Humble
    • Hungry
    • Smart
  • As the leader, you must create an environment where people want to learn
Jun 12, 2022

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Kat Cole is the President, COO, and board member at Athletic Greens. She was previously President and COO at Focus Brands, the parent company of Cinnabon, Auntie Anne’s, Moe’s, Schlotzsky’s, McAllister’s, Carvel, Seattle’s Best Coffee International, and Jamba. She oversaw all businesses, their 6,000 operations globally, and the multi-brand licensing and CPG business with 90,000+ points of retail distribution. She has more than 20 years of operational, brand, and executive leadership experience and has an MBA from Georgia State University and an honorary Doctorate from Johnson and Wales University. This episode was recorded at the Insight Global Headquarters in Atlanta, GA as part of the Women's Leadership Council "Raise Your Hand, Raise Your Voice" event. 

Notes:

  • pragmatic optimist: When Kat was 9 years old, Kat's mom decided to leave her dad. Her dad was an alcoholic. Kat has two younger sisters. Kat was in multiple car accidents with her dad while he was driving drunk. At the age of 9, Kat looked at her mom and said, "What took you so long?"
    • She learned that "the people who are closest to the action know what to do long before the senior leaders do. But they lack the language to articulate the problem and the solution. And they lack the authority to do something about it."
    • "I learned to stay incredibly close to the people who are close to the action from that moment."
    • "With all that he did, my mother never spoke ill of my father. I remember in all of those years, we were super poor. Taking meat scraps from the butcher. I remember one holiday season we were driving around looking at holiday lights. We went through the fancy neighborhoods and she said, 'isn't that beautiful, they must work so hard.' There are these things I absorbed that I started expecting from leaders. I learned to be grounded in the practical (the pragmatic part), but still optimistic because a whole lot is possible with very little, especially if the leader stays close to the action."
  • "I am a learning leader. Learning is my currency." Oh! I get to do something new and I can help people, and I can make money doing it. And money is freedom because it's independence." 
  • "When we left my dad, my mom only had one goal, all she wanted was to raise three independent girls. Our willingness to be independent was her north star."
  • Kat got a job at Hooters and quickly set the record for "close-opens." The shifts where you close the restaurant and open it the next day. She did it 22 straight days.
  • She was then asked to travel to Sydney, Australia and open a new restaurant. She had never left the country and didn't have a passport. She said yes anyway. 
    • She went on to open restaurants on four continents before she was twenty. 
  • How to build trust:
    • It's important to lead through action, not just words.
      • Something as simple as when we get together in person, take time to buy the donuts and coffee or some AG1. Just that effort to find a way to do something that shows you care about their experience. I don't need to say 'I thought of you.' It is obvious."
  • "In my role, my success is your success. Your success comes from me removing friction for you."
    • Vulnerability - Lead with vulnerability first. Share your story. 
    • Holding people accountable - A players do not like seeing B players, C players, people who don't give their best being given equal opportunity. Someone needs to be in control, expectations are communiated and managed, and the leader is keeping us on the tracks. You have to hold people accountable. 
  • Conflict resolution - On Friday night a regular patron would go to Hooters with his friends and order 50 wings... "After finishing the wings, he would call me over and say, 'there was only 40 wings.' He did this 4 weeks in a row. "The 4th Friday, he comes, orders 50 wings, and while they were finishing, before he finished, and I on my own waitress discount ordered 10 wings, and brought them to him. And winked. And his buddies busted out in laugher, and he said, 'good one' and tipped me 100 bucks." 
    • "Don't confuse my kindness for weakness or stupidity. I'm generous. I'm thoughtful. I'm caring. I assume positive intent first, but I'm not going to be taken advantage of."
  • "Confidence is not an old school overly masculine swagger, I know what I'm doing, I've got this. It's a humble confidence. It's not I know what I'm doing, it's I know I can figure this out. My confidence is deeply humble. I have screwed up so many times. I spent 10 years doing humanitarian work on the border of Ethiopia. I know what bad actually looks like. Which keeps western world business bad equally in perspective. That helps me chill. And that translates as ease. And ease translates as calm. And calm translates as both maturity and confidence. But it's actually from perspective."
    • "Confidence is built doing many new things where you are repeatedly uncomfortable."
    • Humble confidence is like from The Mandolorian, "This is the way."
    • "Traditional confidence, that swagger, can be successful. And can drive outcomes, but the teams don't last very long. But the humble confidence is a learning leader. Any leader who suggests they know the way will be wrong at some points. Teams won't last as long if they don't have humble confidence."
  • Productive achievers: The behaviors of the most successful humans have these four qualities:
    • Courage & Confidence + Curiosity & Humility -- They must be equally balanced. 
  • Speaking up - "If you are speaking up with the expectation of a specific outcome, you will always be disapointed. Period. That may be part of the problem. But if speaking up is about contributing and pushing the conversation forward, you're sort of lowering the expecation of the outcome. So I have very low expectation on the impact I make, but I don't expect one hand raise or one memo to change the world. But I do believe in participation."
  • As a first time vice president at Hooters, Kat was 26 years old. She's at the table and every one of her peers was in their 50's. They had been in business longer than she had been alive.
  • Kat's "Hot Shot Rule."
    • The Hotshot Rule is the act of thinking of someone Kat admires, then pausing, reflecting, and asking what they would do in her situation/shoes/role, then answering what that one thing is and acting on it. The answer tends to appear quickly because it seems to be clear when you think about it through someone else's lens. That alone doesn’t create change - the trick is taking action on it right away and then telling someone - the person it benefits, the person you envisioned who inspired you, or just someone you know will appreciate the change you’ve made.
      • "Every time I tell my team, husband, or friend about the one thing I’ve done differently after the exercise, they say, 'What took you so long?' Or 'Finally!'"
  • Kat's Monthly Reflection Questions:
    1. What has been the best part of the last 30 days?
    2. What has been the worst part of the last 30 days?
    3. Tell me one thing that I can do differently to be a better partner/teammate?
    4. What has worried you the most in the last 30 days?
    5. What is one thing you are most proud of in the last 30 days?
    6. What have you been most grateful for?
Jun 5, 2022

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Chandler Bolt is an investor, advisor, the CEO of Self-Publishing School & SelfPublishing.com, and the author of 6 bestselling books including his most recent book titled “Published.”. Self Publishing School is an INC 5000 company the last 3 years in a row as one of the 5,000 fastest-growing private companies in the US. He's currently spending his time scaling Self Publishing School, a company he's built from 0 to $20M+ in 5.5 years. 

Notes:

  • Thinking of your topic – What are the broken record conversations you continue to have? What questions do others ask you on a regular basis? The market will help you understand where you add value…
  • Hiring others-- An hour is an hour. A simple metric… Your take-home pay is divided by 2,080. That is your hourly rate. Hire others to do work if it’s cheaper than your hourly rate. This is hard to do but appears to be a wise investment long term
  • The 4 P’s of writing – Person, pain, promise, price. Write to one person… just like you’re responding to an email.
  • "A book is a $15 mentor"
  • Writing process:
    • Mind map
    • Outline
    • Rough draft
  • "People who pay, pay attention."
  • "Go from I want to, to I am doing it."
  • The root word of authority is author
  • Revenue = Vanity
  • Profit = Sanity
  • Cash = King
  • Designing the life you want first... Michael Hyatt has helped him schedule his time off first.
  • “Valuing freedom above all else; entrepreneurs work harder to create future freedom, which directly takes away from their freedom in the present.”
  • “The truth is, you'll never "find the time" to write a book. You have to make it.”
  • “Don’t be the person who misses out on opportunities in life because you take too long to accomplish your work tasks. Be the kind of person other people marvel at. Be the kind of person other people see and say, “I don’t know how they do it.” Be the kind of person who takes action and does so immediately.”
  • Get a free copy of his new book, go to www.PublishedBook.com/Hawk

 

May 29, 2022

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Jeffrey Pfeffer is the Thomas D. Dee II Professor of Organizational Behavior at the Graduate School of Business, Stanford University where he has taught since 1979. He is the author or co-author of 15 books including Leadership B.S.: Fixing Workplaces and Careers One Truth at a Time; Power: Why Some People Have It—and Others Don’t; The Human Equation: Building Profits by Putting People First; Hard Facts, Dangerous Half-Truths, and Total Nonsense: Profiting from Evidence-Based Management. 

Notes:

  • “The two fundamental dimensions that distinguish people who rise to great heights and accomplish amazing things are will, the drive to take on big challenges, and skill, the capabilities required to turn ambition into accomplishment. The three personal qualities embodied are ambition, energy, and focus. The four skills useful in acquiring power are self-knowledge and a reflective mindset, confidence and the ability to project self-assurance, the ability to read others and empathize with their point of view, and a capacity to tolerate conflict.”
  • “Being memorable equals getting picked.”
  • “Measuring the wrong thing is often worse than measuring nothing because you do get what you measure."
  • “People are seduced by and attracted to narcissists and despots and wind up voting for or working for them, frequently with bad outcomes."
  • Break the rules — in one test, the rule breaker dropped cigarette ashes on the floor and spoke rudely to the waiter. That person was perceived to be 29% more powerful than the person who was more polite.
  • “I completely reject the idea that working adults need to be treated like infants or worse and not told the realities, harsh or not, about the world of work.”
  • Build a powerful brand — in late 2020, Laura Chau was promoted to partner at Canaan Partners, an early-stage venture capital firm. She started a podcast. It gave her the opportunity to ask women who were very senior in their careers to talk for an hour… she expanded her network. Her own status was enhanced through her association with high-status people. Then she started writing and publishing her work. This attracted people to her.
    • A brand needs coherence. Have a narrative and tell it repeatedly.
  • Love: "Kathleen, whom I met at a party in the Green Room of the War Memorial Opera House in San Francisco on January 19, 1985, and married on July 23, 1986. As she would say, no algorithm would have matched us."
    • “To the amazing Kathleen, the love of my life, whose death left a hole in my heart and soul.”
  • The 7 rules of Power are:
    1)     Get out of your own way.
    2)     Break the rules.
    3)     Show up in a powerful fashion.
    4)     Create a powerful brand.
    5)     Network relentlessly.
    6)     Use your power.
    7)     Understand that once you have acquired power, what you did to get it will be forgiven, forgotten, or both.
May 22, 2022

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Ed Mylett is a globally recognized entrepreneur, coach, and speaker. He started in the financial services industry, eventually earning a spot on the Forbes 50 Wealthiest Under 50 List. Since then, he has spearheaded a range of ventures, spanning technology, real estate, health, nutrition, and more. Ed is the best-selling author of #MaxOut Your Life, and the new book The Power of One More. He has grown his online audience to more than 3 million followers in just four years. Ed also regularly inspires audiences ranging from small gatherings to mega-venues of 50,000+ attendees, and online audiences in the hundreds of thousands. 

Notes:

  • Self-confidence is about keeping promises to yourself. And surrounding yourself with people who live at a higher temperature. You become what they are. You think differently, act differently, and will achieve different results based on your inner circle.
    • "Link your confidence to your intention."
  • Excellence = high standards. People who sustain excellence expect more from themselves. They’re prepared for big moments. Their habits, routines, and rituals enable them to perform at a high level each day. And they keep raising their standards. Isn’t that the type of person we want to be?
  • Definition of leadership – “As I define it, you are a One More leader if you help people do things they would not otherwise accomplish without your presence.” - Ed Mylett
  • The six basic needs that drive people: Certainty, Uncertainty and Variety, Significance, Love & Connection, Growth, and Contribution.
  • Many people think they’ve got to make several huge changes to improve their lives and achieve their goals. This common misconception works as a barrier instead of a motivator.  And as a result, people never start making changes, or quickly give up, never fulfilling their potential.
  • The One More philosophy is built on two main premises. First, you don’t need to make dozens of big changes to achieve significant growth or change. Often, important changes take place as the result of doing one more thing. Second, the One More philosophy is about combining thinking and doing. We often do one or the other and assume that’s enough. But it’s not until you combine those two that you’ll start to see profound changes in your life.
  • "My dad was an alcoholic when I was young. It wasn’t until my mom gave him a One More ultimatum that he got sober. For the last 35 years of his life, he devoted himself to helping others with alcohol addiction, almost until the day he died, making the most of the One More chance he’d been given.  He passed away a little over a year ago, and his death was also a reminder to reach out and spend as much time as you can with the people you love because if you don’t, you’ll regret not having one last One More with that person when they’re gone."
  • The questions you ask yourself directly reflect what you think about. When you don’t think about the right things, you’ll ask yourself questions that don’t advance the quality of your life. Better questions lead to better answers, and better answers lead to a better life. Asking tough questions can be uncomfortable but doing so eventually leads you to the best answers although they may be difficult for you to address. Facing these answers empowers you to remove roadblocks that have been holding you back from your best One More life.
  • Goals & Standards - Many people often confuse goals and standards, thinking they’re the same thing. They are not! Although goals are important, standards determine whether you’ll reach your goals or not. The proper standards create a framework that feeds into your efforts, mindset, and what you’re willing to tolerate. You can control these parts of your life while goals are often at the mercy of external forces.
  • The role Ed plays: Identify your own gifts and the gifts others possess. Link the work that needs to be done to those gifts.
  • Henry Ford - People need to feel loved, and cared for, and that you believe in them. They can grow into roles.
  • How to help powerful people? They want clarity, specificity, and laser focus.
  • Become evangelical about your mission. The mission is what you stand for and against.
  • What is going through Ed's mind the few minutes before he gives a keynote speech?
    • He prays. He focuses on the audience and their needs. It's about them. They need to feel his intent.
  • Energy - "The highest energy person wins."
  • Sustained excellence:
    • High standards
    • Preparation
    • Habits and rituals
  • Why do all of this?
    • Ed is motivated to have high standards to "catch the guy I was capable of being."
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Jimmy Soni is an award-winning author. His book, A Mind at Play: How Claude Shannon Invented the Information Age, won the 2017 Neumann Prize, awarded by the British Society for the History of Mathematics for the best book on the history of mathematics for a general audience, and the Middleton Prize by the Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers. His book, Jane’s Carousel, completed with the late Jane Walentas, captured one woman’s remarkable twenty-five-year journey to restore a beloved carousel in Brooklyn Bridge Park. Jimmy's most recent book is called, The Founders - The Story of PayPal and the Entrepreneurs Who Shaped Silicon Valley. 

Notes:

  • Your life will be shaped by the things you create, and the people you make them with. We tend to sweat the former. We don't worry enough about the latter."
    • The founders and earliest employees of PayPal pushed and prodded and demanded better of one another.
  • Instead of "Acknowledgements" to end his book, Jimmy titled the section "Debts"
    • "A debt is deeper than an Acknowledgement."
  • Envy the optimist, not the genius. There’s real power in optimism. The world is built by optimists. Look for the silver things. Have belief. Be the type of person that believes in themselves and others… Optimism builds confidence in yourself and others. Be an optimist.
  • Phil Jackson and Michael Jordan – The fact that Phil told the best player in the world… “We aren’t going to win a championship if you keep playing that way. You have to buy into the triangle offense.” It shows the value of a friend (or a coach) telling you the truth in order to help you (and the team) get better.
  • "Walter Isaacson made me believe in its (the book) importance and potential. At the very end, he provided the kind of advice that can only come from someone who has spent years laboring in the same fields.
  • Peter Thiel refined Max Levchin's thinking... He made him better.
  • Ask, "Have you thought about it this way?"
  • Watch Jiro Dreams of Sushi
  • Kobe Bryant was an incredible learning machine. His insatiable curiosity made him better.
    • You can become curious about anything.
    • Mr. Beast spent hours every day on Skype with his friends talking about how to grow a YouTube channel.
  • We live in a moment were you can connect with others who are passionate about the same topics you are. With the internet, you can connect with anyone.
  • Qualities of the leaders who created PayPal:
    • It was so hard. They all experienced failure and bounced back.
    • Highly intelligent.
    • Hard-working.
      • They worked 7 days a week. There was no work-life balance.
    • They weren't just resilient, they were fast-moving.
  • Life Advice:
    • What looks like expertise on the outside is generally messiness on the inside.
    • Leadership in Solitude. There are benefits to spending some time by yourself.
  • Ask – The people who make things happen are willing to ASK. Steve Jobs to Bill Hewlitt. Elon Musk to Dr. Peter Nicholson. Those "asks" changed the trajectory of their lives. Who knows, maybe your next ASK will change yours…
  • Claude Shannon, Bell Laboratories, renowned as an incredible hub of innovation…  whose work in the 1930s and ’40s earned him the title of “father of the information age.” Geniuses have a unique way of engaging with the world, and if you spend enough time examining their habits, you discover the behaviors behind their brilliance.
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Steve Magness is a world-renowned expert on performance, co-author of Peak Performance: Elevate Your Game, Avoid Burnout, and Thrive with the New Science of Success and The Passion Paradox: A Guide to Going All In, Finding Success, and Discovering the Benefits of an Unbalanced Life, and the author of The Science of Running: How to Find Your Limit and Train to Maximize Your Performance. His new book is called Do Hard Things.

Notes:

  • The best aren’t concerned with being the best. They’re concerned with being the best at getting better.”
  • Confidence: Confidence needs evidence. Acting with bravado we haven't earned only works on easy things. It backfires on anything truly challenging. Doing difficult things, even if you don't quite succeed at them, is how you develop real confidence.
  • How do you find a good mentor? Do interesting things. Be open to learning and guidance. Be motivated, driven, and curious about something. Put your ego aside. Do good, quality work.
  • The difference between real and fake toughness. Fake toughness is easy to identify. It’s Bobby Knight losing control and throwing tantrums in the name of “discipline.” It’s the appearance of power without substance behind it.
    • Researchers out of Eastern Washington set out to explore the relationship between leadership style and the development of toughness. After conducting research on nearly two hundred basketball players and their coaches, they concluded, “The results of this study seem to suggest that the ‘keys’ to promoting mental toughness do not lie in this autocratic, authoritarian, or oppressive style. It appears to lie, paradoxically, with the coach’s ability to produce an environment, which emphasizes trust and inclusion, humility, and service.
  • Sustained Excellence: Observation: the people who sustain success over the long haul are rarely shooting for success. They are focused on the path. Their goal is mastery, which knows no end.
  • What characteristics do the best performers have?
    • Don't get tired of the boring stuff
    • Masters of compartmentalization
    • Can flip the switch
    • Know how to lose well
    • Cultivate perspective
    • Delayed gratification
    • Drive from within
  • Creating an enemy: Whenever an organization, group, or individual works hard to create an enemy to pit their idea/group against, it's a sign you probably shouldn't listen. Us vs. Them is the easiest way to exploit human nature, to get people on your side. It often means there's no substance there.
  • The best way to get the most out of someone is to make them feel secure enough that they can take risks and fail. Most of us don't reach our potential because we default to protective mode. Threatening & demanding makes us protect further. Security and belonging frees us up.
  • “Growth comes at the point of resistance. Skills come from struggle.”
  • “The fact is that often coaches figure out what works in training and then the scientists come in later and explain why it works.”
  • What can we learn about success and performance from Eliud Kipchoge?
    • He is not fanatical about trying to be great all the time. He is consistent & patient.
    • His coach says that the secret is that he makes progress “slowly by slowly.”
    • Motivation + Discipline = Consistency
      • He told The NY Times, "He estimates that he seldom pushes himself past 80 percent — 90 percent, tops — of his maximum effort when he circles the track."
    • "I have a mindset whereby I am a human being. I am walking around as a human being. I learn to perform well at the same time being grounded. And I trust that being humble and being on the ground is the only way to concentrate"
    • "You cannot train alone and expect to run a fast time. There is a formula: 100% of me is nothing compared to 1% of the whole team. And that’s teamwork. That’s what I value."
    • “To be precise, I am just going to try to run my personal best. If it comes as a world record, I would appreciate it. But I would treat it as a personal best.”
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Daniel Coyle is the New York Times bestselling author of The Culture Code, which was named Best Business Book of the Year by Bloomberg, BookPal, and Business Insider. Coyle has served as an advisor to many high-performing organizations, including the Navy SEALs, Microsoft, Google, and the Cleveland Guardians. His other books include The Talent Code, The Secret Race, The Little Book of Talent, and Hardball: A Season in the Projects, which was made into a movie starring Keanu Reeves. Coyle was raised in Anchorage, Alaska, and now lives in Cleveland Heights, Ohio, during the school year and in Homer, Alaska, during the summer with his wife Jenny, and their four children.

Notes:

  • Purpose isn’t about tapping into some mystical internal drive but rather about creating simple beacons that focus attention and engagement on the shared goal. Successful cultures do this by relentlessly seeking ways to tell and retell their story. To do this, they build what you call “high-purpose environments.” High-purpose environments are filled with small, vivid signals designed to create a link between the present moment and a future ideal. They provide 2 simple locators that every navigation process requires: Here is where we are and Here is where we want to go.
  • "The world we live in is a learning contest."
  • Deep fun = Solving hard problems with people you admire.
  • Schedule regular team “tune-ups” to place an explicit spotlight on the team’s inner workings and create conversations that surface and improve team dynamics
  • Foster strong culture in remote working scenarios. It doesn’t take much physical togetherness to build strong teams. Encourage remote teams meet up in person twice a year
  • Create belonging: every group knows diversity, equity, and inclusion matter, but what separates strong cultures is they aim to create belonging across racial lines. Ex: normalize uncomfortable conversations; read, watch, reflect together; gather data and share it • Build Trust. Ask the magic-wand question to each member of your team: if you could wave a magic wand and change one thing about the way we work, what would it be?
  • Connect. Hold an anxiety party to serve as a pressure-relief valve, as well as a platform for people to connect and solve problems together.
  • Change perspective. Have a once-a-week catch-up session with someone outside of your group.
  • Make it safe to talk about mistakes: Strong cultures seek to highlight and remember their mistakes and learn from them • Listen. Listening to others’ problems is one of the most powerful culture-building skills on the planet. It’s also difficult. Restrain yourself from jumping in, listen, then say: Tell me more.
  • Embrace the After-Action Review (or as the military calls it, the AAR): Talking together about the strengths and weaknesses of your performance will make your group better.
  • The Billion Dollar Day When Nothing Happened – “These Ads Suck." That was the note that Larry Page wrote and hung up about Google Ad Words. What did Jeff Dean, a quiet, skinny engineer from Minnesota, do to make the ads not suck? He had no immediate need to fix the problem. He worked in Search (a different area of the company. And how did Jeff Dean respond when he was asked about it years later (he said he didn’t even really remember it. It was just normal to do stuff like that)...
  • There is a misconception that great cultures are places that are always happy. Doing great work is hard. The way we build great cultures is by doing hard things together focused on connection and safety.
  • Life/Career advice: Think of your life in experiments and the learning loop. It is Experience + Reflection. Experience + Reflection. WRITE DOWN WHAT you’ve learned from your experiences. Writing creates clarity of thought.
  • Amy Edmondson researched Chelsea and Mountain Medical – What made them a success? The answer lay in patterns of real-time signals through which the team members were connected. There were 5 things:
    • Framing - They conceptualized MICS as a learning experience that would benefit patients and the hospital. Unsuccessful teams viewed it as an add-on to existing practices.
    • Roles - Role clarity. Being told explicitly by the team leader why their individual and collective skills were important for the team’s success
    • Rehearsal - Practice a lot
    • Explicit encouragement to speak up
    • Active reflection - Between surgeries, successful teams went over their performance
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Jim Weber joined Brooks Running Company as CEO in 2001 and is credited for the Seattle-based running company’s aggressive turnaround story. The business and brand success caught the attention of Warren Buffett, who declared Brooks a standalone subsidiary company of Berkshire Hathaway Inc. in 2012. He’s the author of a new book called, “Running With Purpose, How Brooks Outpaced Goliath Competitors to lead the pack.”

Notes:

  • A purpose is a forever cause that can permeate everything from the business to the brand to the culture. It is a choice, not an outcome.
  • The secret to success is “constancy of purpose” - Instead of a mission statement, Jim decided that a purpose was preferable to a mission. A purpose is a forever cause that can permeate everything from the business to the brand to the culture.
  • The riskiest path is to look like your competitors. You can't just chase trends.
  • They have distinct points of view:
    • Focus
    • Excellence in execution
  • Trust: Charlie Munger has often spoken about the “seamless web of deserved trust” as a life pursuit.
    • The Berkshire culture is built on trust
      • Brooks is completely empowered
      • Brooks is completely accountable
      • There are no required meetings
      • People choose to self-select into it
  • "You're an outcome of your journey."
  • What Jim looks for when hiring a leader:
    • Competitive
    • Culture driven - "Cultures are behaviors in action."
    • Likes being part of a team
    • Functional excellence
  • Values:
    • Word is bond
    • Be active
    • Authenticity
  • The process Jim has in place to continue learning:
    • He was involved in YPO in the early years
    • His wife Mary Ellen
    • A board of advisors - It's 6 former CEOs
  • The one-page strategy that you relentlessly message to your team – Jim made the decision to walk away from non-premium running to concentrate on performance-running, eliminating 50% of his product line and 40% of his retail partnerships. He didn’t try to be all things to all people.
  • Expectations and Messaging: After becoming CEO, Jim lowered revenue and profit projections so that he could establish some credibility by hitting his numbers. He brought in a new CFO, David Bohan… He shared a one-page strategy and told everyone they would get sick of you repeating it.
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Vanessa Van Edwards is the Lead Investigator at Science of People. She is the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People, translated into 16 languages. More than 50 million people watch her engaging YouTube tutorials and TEDx Talk. Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion-dollar companies; and has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS Mornings, Fast Company, Inc. Magazine, USA Today, Entrepreneur Magazine, The Today Show, and many more. Her latest book is called Cues: Master The Secret Language of Charismatic Communication.

Notes:

  • Cues - It’s about warmth and competence. Can I trust you? Can I rely on you? – How are you showing others warmth and competence?
  • Dr. Kofi Essel - His non-verbal protocol for warmth:
    • Fronting - He angles his toes, torso, and head towards the person. Be in alignment with the patient.
    • Non-Verbal bridges - Slowly warm someone up. Lean in.
  • In your 1 on 1 meetings, remove all barriers between you and the person. Show them 100% focus.
    • If you see someone gazing over your head, look where they’re looking. It will help make them aware of what they're doing.
  • Question Inflection - From the Ring founder when he pitched on Shark Tank. This is something that a lot of us mess up. When stating a fact, SAY IT, don’t ask it.
  • The 4 modes of communication:
    • Nonverbal
    • Verbal - Syntax
    • Vocal
    • Imagery
  • Touch – A group of researchers at UC Berkeley watched the first 3 games of the NBA finals in the 2008-2009 season and counted every single time players were seen touching on camera. They found the team that touched the most, won the most games.    Touches = higher trust
  • Speed dating research – Followed 144-speed dates and found that postural expansiveness was the most romantically appealing trait. Participants who took up more space were 76% more likely to be chosen for future dates.
  • Want to show someone they matter? That you’re listening? Turning toward is tuning in.
  • Zoom Calls – How do we best approach them? - Look into the camera so the other person feels you are looking them in the eye.
  • Disney teaches all of their employees (from janitors to princesses) specific nonverbal cues to use with guests. And they all embody the pinnacle of warmth…
  • “Being a highlighter is about constantly searching for the good in people. When you tell people they are good, they become better. When you search for what’s good, you feel great.”
  • “When you try to be the same as everyone else, it’s boring. When you try to fit into a mold, you become forgettable. When you try to be “normal,” you become dull. Just be yourself, because no one is like you. If you’re a little weird, own it. The right people will like you for it.”
  • “Vulnerability is sexy—it shows we are relatable, honest, and real. That is attractive. And the science proves it: “A blunder tends to humanize him and, consequently, increases his attractiveness.”
  • “Humans are purpose-driven creatures. We want to believe there are reasons behind everything we do. Before leaders can inspire action, they have to get emotional buy-in. When we explain the motivations behind a goal, it allows listeners to feel partial ownership of that goal.”
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Marcus Buckingham is best selling author of 10 books, including his international hit, “First, Break All The Rules,” He’s been the subject of in-depth profiles in The New York Times, The Today Show, and by Oprah. Marcus spent two decades studying excellence at the Gallup Organization and co-creating the StrengthsFinder tool. His latest book is called Love + Work.

Notes:

  • “When you see someone do something with excellence, there is always love in it– loveless excellence is an oxymoron.”
  • Fear versus Love – “The evolutionary purpose of fear is to narrow your focus to a few clear choices, fight or flight, the point of love is to create in you such feelings of safety and connection that you broaden your outlook and build your strengths.”
    • If you're feeling fear, there's something you're passionate about
  • Excellence =
    • They take their love seriously
      • They are confident that their love is worth paying attention to
      • They are vivid in what they're drawn to
    • Consistent
    • They value mastery
  • "We aren't short on time, but on energy."
  • How Marcus would design a school:
    • Teach self-awareness and self-mastery curriculum
    • Get rid of the SAT, ACT, and GPA
  • Your fullest life is one where your loves and your work flow in an infinite loop. The energy of the one fuels the energy of the other. Thus, the only way you’ll make a lasting contribution in life is to deeply understand what it is that you love.
  • Goals: “Goals are tricky. They are one of the most common characteristics of your working world, and yet they’re also one of the least loving. They don’t have to be loveless.” 
  • The Red Thread questionnaire. It’s full of “When was the last time…” questions: “You lost track of time…” “You surprised yourself by how well you did…” “you found yourself actively looking forward to work…”
  • Never brag – Don’t say, “I’m the best.” Instead say, “I”m at my best when…” And “You can rely on me for…”
  • Marcus shared how he responded to his ex-wife being involved in the college admission scandal where she offered large sums of cash for their kids to get into USC
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Liz Fosslien is the co-author and illustrator of the book Big Feelings and the Wall Street Journal best-seller No Hard Feelings. Liz is an expert on how to make work better. She regularly leads interactive, scientifically-backed workshops about how to build resilience, help remote workers avoid burnout, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by TED, Harvard Business Review, The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR.

  • Ask yourself… When you look back at your career and think of your best boss and your worst boss… What behaviors did each of them have? How can we embody more of the best boss behavior?
  • Set up a regular cadence of not-urgent, developmental meetings with the people you’re leading. Show them and prove to them how much you care about them and their career.
    • What have you enjoyed most?
    • What have you not enjoyed?
    • What have you learned?
    • What do you want for your next job?
  • Use envy to reveal what you value. But remember, ask yourself if you’d want that person’s entire life. Not just the cool part you see on Instagram. The Gretchen Rubin story of feeling envy over seeing someone else publish a book. She used that as fuel.
    • Anger is a signal that something occurred that you didn't like. Acknowledge what you're feeling.
  • She met her co-author, Molly West Duffy, on a blind friend date!
  • How to deal with uncertainty?
    • Over-communicate - Be transparent
    • Switch from "I need to have this all figured out" to "I'm a person learning to become a manager"
  • Pixar recruited animators that were frustrated at their current place of work...
  • Liz's research process:
    • Read a lot
    • Talk with academics
    • Learn from practitioners who are applying it
  • Work-life balance?
    • It's well-intentioned... but a very individual thing
    • Some people are segmenters
    • Some people are integrators... They like to mix work with friends
    • Both are okay...
  • Goal setting: There are long term and short term goals
    • Liz chooses to abandon long term goals to live the life she wants to live
      • She enjoys creative time on the weekends
    • Short-term goals... What's going to make an impact?
  • Top 5 priorities - "You have to run into the spike"
  • Career/Life advice:
    • DO something. Do the work. Take action
    • See everything as a learning experience... Think, "What can I learn from this?"
      • Liz once worked at a Starbucks and learned a lot about hospitality from it
    • Create an emotional experience
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  • "We are wired for laziness. It takes conscious thought to do the harder thing."
  • What Micheal learned from The Pope... If you have a question, go directly to the source.
  • The science-backed ways to slow down time?
    • Learn and do new things. Get off "auto-pilot" mode.
  • Benefits of thinking about death?
    • Michael learned in Bhutan why we should think about death...
      • In the United States, we rarely think about death—especially our own death. And when we do, it tends to make us sad and uncomfortable. But there are powerful benefits to regularly contemplating the fact that our time in this world will eventually come to an end. The shift in perspective can be profound and lead to a kind of deeply felt and enduring appreciation for life.
  • Michael's love for his mom: "My mom got sober when my dad was in rehab. That's how my favorite story I've ever written starts. It's about my mom, a single parent who taught me everything I need to know about being a man. As I was writing that story five years ago, my mom was battling cancer. She'd just finished chemotherapy and was undergoing radiation. Doctors officially deemed my mom "cured" from cancer. In the story I wrote, "Have you ever played tug-of-war with a pit bull? It’ll pull until you quit or it dies. That’s Lynda Easter."
  • How Michael dealt with alcohol - “I saw a choice. Option 1, do nothing. Cling to complacency and the numbing lifestyle that would ultimately end badly but allow me to keep drinking. Or option 2. Get uncomfortable. Ditch my liquid comfort blanket. I hadn’t a clue where this second option would take me or if I could even pull it off. And I was terrified.”
  • Take The Stairs: A mantra I try to live by when traveling – “Take the stairs.” When there is an escalator and stairs, always take the stairs. If you’re fortunate enough to have legs that work, then take the stairs.
    • Be a 2 percenter… 98% of people take the escalator at the airport. Take the stairs.
  • Exercise: Exercise grows the hippocampus in the brain. This is something that is shrunken in people who suffer from depression. We exercise 14 times less than our ancestors.
    • "We've engineered movement out of our lives."
  • Michael traveled 30,000 miles around the world, met with experts ranging from Harvard researchers and Icelandic geneticists to Buddhist Lamas and Special Forces soldiers, and also spent more than a month in the remote Alaskan backcountry.
  • "Discover the evolutionary mind and body benefits of living at the edges of your comfort zone and reconnecting with the wild."
  • "If you want to improve your life, you have to go through discomfort."
  • The benefits of boredom - Michael spent time in the Arctic on a hunt. It's very boring to sit on the hills for hours. But, boredom created ideas. It's evolutionary discomfort. In those boring times, Michael thought about ideas and wrote chapters of his book.
  • "Your life is a culmination of that which you are aware of." - William James
  • Go out in nature. Take walks.
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Polina Pompliano is studying the world's most interesting people & companies. She is the Founder & Author of The Profile. Polina is a former writer at  Fortune. Some of the people she’s written a profile on are: Martha Stewart, Keanu Reeves, and The Rock. I am a paid subscriber and love her work.

Notes:

  • Sustained excellence comes from being obsessively curious about what you do… And knowing that failure is part of the process. It’s how you choose to respond that matters. Examples: Taylor Swift, Kim Kardashian, Martha Stewart.
  • The advice she received from David Perell (also a previous podcast guest). He said, “Everything you put into the world is a vehicle for serendipity.” Polina wrote a profile on The Rock. She had no idea he would share it four times on all platforms.
  • Create your own personal board of advisors. Listen to criticism, but only from people who want you to win. Only from people who care about you doing well. Not from trolls online.
  • "Consistency is the best way to earn trust. – Name a relationship in your life where you trust someone who is inconsistent. You can’t. That’s because we don’t trust people — whether it’s in work, business, or relationships — who constantly break their promises. Since I started The Profile three years ago, I have never missed a single week."
  • Criticism: "I once heard Kat Cole say that one of the biggest lessons she has learned after years of business experience is to put your ego aside and improve from criticism. She said, “Anytime you’re criticized, assume first that it’s correct.” The act of simply considering that a fraction of the criticism may be accurate will keep you learning, unlearning, fixing, and ultimately, gaining respect."
  • How to Find Ideas: "It’s about being obsessed with the details. A great idea typically masquerades as a question in a friend’s text message, a quote in a documentary, a line in a book, or an observation on a walk."
  • Creativity: "I can't get new ideas staring at a blank page. Creativity, for me, requires motion. When you go on a walk, you can turn your world into an idea-generating sensorium, and ideas will spring up from the most unlikely sources. There is one thing that's absolutely certain about creativity: It's an active process, not a passive one. The best ideas come when you become curious, aware, interested."
  • Daniel Ek Makers schedule versus a Managers schedule. This is from Paul Graham. I wrote it about it in my first book, Welcome to Management.
  • Marriage: "In 2013, I asked my great-grandmother what she had learned from 53 years of marriage. She said, “When you’re young and beautiful like we were, falling in love is easy. But you have to fall in love with someone’s soul — because you will get old, but the soul will never change.”"
  • "I don’t like to gamble, but if there is one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.” - Beyonce
  • How to attract more luck into your life? – Written by George Mack (published by Polina)
    • Avoid Boring People
    • Have a luck razor
    • Have a Poker mindset
  • Polina desires to help you "improve your content diet." Instead of binging TV shows and scrolling through random social media, read The Profile.
  • How to be more creative:
    • Take a walk
    • Allow room for serendipity
    • Look at the footnotes of books
  • What Polina learned from James Clear: When he doesn't read enough, he doesn't have the ideas to write about. Reading helps generate ideas. Have a stack of books everywhere in your house and office.
  • Why leaders should write?
    • It creates clarity of thought.
      • "I can tell that you're thinking is sloppy if your writing is sloppy."
  • Every single word of a post matters. It's about being precise. Precision is so important when it comes to writing. You have to clearly think it through to create precision with thought and writing.
  • Storytelling - Get rid of the generic, fluffy writing.
    • People enjoy profiles because it takes you inside the mind of a person.
  • Life/Career advice:
    • Don't tie your identity to something that can be taken away from you.
Mar 13, 2022

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Brady Quinn set 36 records at The University of Notre Dame.  He graduated from Notre Dame as one of their greatest football players ever. Along with the likes of Joe Montana, Tony Rice, and Rocket Ismail… He was drafted in the first round by the Cleveland Browns in the 2007 NFL Draft.  He currently serves as one of the main analysts on Saturday’s “Big Noon Kickoff” on FS1. He's one of the only people broadcasting both collegiate and NFL games. Now, he’s on the radio every morning:  "2 Pros and a Cup of Joe" show he hosts with LaVar Arrington and Jonas Knox.

AJ Hawk is the all-time leading tackler in Green Bay Packers history. He won a National Championship at Ohio State University and was voted captain of the Green Bay Packers Super Bowl-winning team in the 2010-2011 season. He was inducted into the Ohio State University Hall of Fame in 2019. Currently, he is a co-host on The Pat McAfee Show which airs weekdays on YouTube.

Notes:

  • Playing quarterback: “You can find the intangibles of being a quarterback in almost every profession in the world. There’s nothing like it.” – Brady Quinn
    • You must be efficient and effective as a communicator.
    • You have to prepare for all of the "what if" scenarios - "Have a plan, work the plan, plan for the unexpected."
    • You have to be a great listener
    • You need to be curious to ask the right questions
    • "The quarterback runs the show. They need to be the person that you can go to when there are problems." - AJ
  • Why has AJ resonated with viewers on The Pat McAfee Show:
    • "You're relatable. People liked you for being a Super Bowl-winning linebacker, but they didn't know you then. They get to know you now on your show and they see that you're like them. They can relate to you." - Brady
  • Dad Life - "Discipline is love. Do the hard thing. Don't take the easy way out." - Brady
  • The Fiesta Bowl - AJ (the All-American linebacker from Ohio State) vs. Brady (the All-American Quarterback from Notre Dame)
  • High-pressure situations:
    • Must be prepared so you can let your instincts take over
    • Need to learn from past failures to improve the next time
    • Must work on the little things every day so they become ingrained habits
  • The Draft - Your ultimate golf group. You can choose any person
    • Brady:
      • Chopper Quinn (Brady's dad)
      • Elon Musk
      • Chris Farley
      • Tiger Woods
      • Will Ferrell
    • Ryan:
      • George Washington
      • Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson
      • Eddie Vedder
      • Kobe Bryant
      • Steve Carell
    • AJ:
      • Samuel L. Jackson
      • Sean Casey
      • Charles Barkley
      • Tom Cruise
      • Pierro Manzoni
Mar 7, 2022

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Max Lugavere is the author of the New York Times best-seller Genius Foods: Become Smarter, Happier, and More Productive While Protecting Your Brain for Life. He appears regularly on the Dr. Oz Show, the Rachael Ray Show, and The Doctors. His latest book is called Genius Kitchen - Over 100 Easy & Delicious Recipes to make your brain sharp, body strong, and taste buds happy.

  • "A healthy person has 100 wishes. A sick person has 1."
  • This subject became personal for Max when his mother, Kathy, was given a diagnosis of dementia, and he devoted himself to her care. She died in 2018. “Now that Mom is gone, I am even more obsessed with the topic.”
  • Shop in the perimeter of the supermarket. Reach for nutrient-dense foods.
  • Lifestyle changes that will 10x the quality of your life:
    • Getting 8-9 hours of sleep instead of 4-6
    • Eating more animal protein (especially beef and eggs)
    • Less cardio, more strength training
    • Regular heat (sauna) and cold (ice bath/cold shower) stress
    • Daily sunlight
  • Intermittent fasting – instead of eating 16 hours a day, eat 8.
  • Drinking caffeine is “taking a loan out on energy from later in the day?” – Cortisol peaks in the AM. Wait 45 minutes after you wake up to drink caffeine. Stop drinking caffeine from time to time so that your body can reset.
  • Willpower is a finite resource. Create your environment to make good decisions.
  • Whole Foods - 3 Things to think about:
    • Protein - #1 satiating piece. Greek yogurt, beef jerky, eggs
    • Fiber - It stretches out your stomach. Helps fill you up. Greens, broccoli, whole fruit.
    • Water - Get hydrated.
  • Supplements - Protein shakes. Whey isolate. He uses muscle feast.
  • Most bread is not useful. It's ultra-processed food.
  • Alcohol - Most wine has a lot of sugar. Most alcohol does. Max drinks tequila.
  • Wake up, hydrate... "I’m up somewhere between 7 and 8. I don’t use an alarm clock. I go straight into the kitchen and drink a tall glass of room-temperature water. I may sprinkle a bit of mineral salt in it which replenishes electrolytes."
  • Light... Air... "Whether it’s winter or summer, I go out onto my terrace and do a few minutes of deep breathing, stretching, and meditation. I’m a big believer in getting in natural light in the morning because it aligns my circadian rhythm for the day.
Feb 28, 2022

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Brad Meltzer is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Inner Circle, The Book of Fate, and ten other bestselling thrillers. He also writes non-fiction books like The First Conspiracy, about a secret plot to kill George Washington – and the Ordinary People Change the World kids book series. His newest thriller, The Escape Artist, debuted at #1 on the bestseller list. Brad is also responsible for helping find the missing 9/11 flag that the firefighters raised at Ground Zero, making national news on the 15th anniversary of 9/11. Former President George H.W. Bush also gave Brad, for the very first time, the secret letter he left for President Bill Clinton in the Oval Office desk. If you need a good cry, read this story about Brad reading to President Bush before he died. The Hollywood Reporter put him on their list of the 25 Most Powerful Authors, and he’s been asked to serve as a member of the America250 Council, to celebrate the upcoming 250th birthday of the country.

Notes:

  • “Stories aren’t the beauty of what did happen. They’re the beauty of what could happen.”
  • “For me, Superman's greatest contribution has never been the superhero part: it's the Clark Kent part - the idea that any of us, in all our ordinariness, can change the world.”
  • The 3 things he tells his kids each night when he tucks them into bed:
    • Dream Big - Young people have the biggest and best dreams.
    • Work Hard - Your first book got 24 rejection letters. And in your TED Talk, you share the story of your Dad and how hard he worked (maybe open with this?). When you were writing your 9th book, your book of heroes for your soon. A story about The Wright Brothers… Every time The Wright Brothers would go out to fly their plane, they would bring enough extra materials for multiple crashes. Every time they went out, they knew they would fail. And they would crash and rebuild, and crash and rebuild. And that’s why they took off.
    • Stay Humble - Noone likes a jerk. When Thomas Jefferson wrote the Declaration of Independence, he never took credit for it. It was announced when he died and it was in his obituary.
  • All history ever is, is a bunch of stories. How to change history, all you have to do is write your story. History is a selection process. It chooses every single one of us, every single day. You will change history.
  • “Brad’s meticulous research and interviews with top-level government sources — including U.S. Presidents — fill each page with authenticity and make his characters come alive.”
  • His belief is that ordinary people change the world. It is that core belief that runs through every one of his projects.
  • How to respond from rejection? Brad’s first book was rejected 24 times… And then later that book went on to become a bestseller.
  • As a culture, we're starving for heroes
  • “We are all ordinary. We are all boring. We are all spectacular. We are all shy. We are all bold. We are all heroes. We are all helpless. It just depends on the day.”
  • “There's nothing more intimate in life than simply being understood. And understanding someone else.”
  • “In this world, there was nothing scarier than trusting someone. But there was also nothing more rewarding.”
  • “No matter how far we come, our parents are always in us.”
  • “The worst lies in life are the ones we tell ourselves.”
  • From Brad's book to his daughter: “As your father, my instinct is to protect you ... Other people will want to protect you too. But remember that you are not a damsel in distress, waiting for some prince to rescue you. Forget the prince. With your brain and your resourcefulness, you can rescue yourself.”
  • “You need to understand something... In this world, we're not humans having a divine experience. We're divine beings having a human experience.”
Feb 21, 2022

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Jane McGonigal, PhD is a world-renowned designer of alternate reality games — or, games that are designed to improve real lives and solve real problems. She believes game designers are on a humanitarian mission — and her #1 goal in life is to see a game developer win a Nobel Peace Prize. She is a two-time New York Times bestselling author: Reality is Broken: Why Games Make Us Better and How They Can Change the World and SuperBetter: The Power of Living Gamefully. Her TED talks on how games can make a better world and the game that can give you 10 extra years of life, are among the all-time most popular TED talks, and have more than 15 million views.

  • Jane dedicates this book to her sister Kelly... "who lives six minutes in the future." They are twins.
    • "It's so helpful having her. If she can achieve something (TED Talks, Books), I could do it too."
  • Being able to predict the future is not enough. You have to be bale to pre-feel it.
  • Write down your long term plans. "Talk about a world you want to wake up in."
  • "Any useful idea about the future should sound rediculous initially."
  • "The best way to predict the future is to invent it."
  • How to think like a futurist?
    • In the corporate world... Carve out a role for yourself to fight short-terminism. Fight short term thinking. Play the long game.
    • Create future planning habits in your organization.
  • Dare to daydream.
  • Take ownership - Create moments of joy... Be of service to others.
  • A 30 second practical activity:
    • Imagine 10 years from now... Where are you? What woke you up? Who are you with?
  • The 3 questions to give you a baseline sense of your “future mindset”
    • When you think about the next 10 years, do you think things will mostly stay the same and go on as normal? Or do you expect that most of us will dramatically rethink and reinvent how we do things?
    • When you think about how the world and your life will change over the next 10 years, are you mostly worried or mostly optimistic?
    • How much control or influence do you feel you personally have in determining how the world and your life change over the next 10 years?
  • How to predict the future?
    • Unstick your mind
    • Think The Unthinkable
    • Imagine the Unimaginable
  • Imaginable - How to see the future coming and feel ready for anything– even things that seem impossible today
  • One of the issues that cause depression is it doesn’t allow you to imagine a future. For us as leaders, we need to be able to imagine a positive future for ourselves and our team.
  • Be a spotlight for other people’s good ideas. Bring attention to it. Be known as someone who spreads positive gossip
  • Living in the present. Giannis "When you focus on the past, that's your ego... And when I focus on the future it's my pride... And I kind of like to focus in the moment, in the present. And that's humility. That's being humble."
Feb 14, 2022

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Josh Peck is an actor, comedian, author, entrepreneur, and YouTuber. He began his career as a child actor in the late 1990s and early 2000s and had an early role on The Amanda Show from 2000 to 2002. Josh rose to prominence for his role as Josh Nichols alongside Drake Bell's character in the Nickelodeon sitcom Drake & Josh. Josh Peck provided the voice of Eddie in the Ice Age franchise since Ice Age: The Meltdown and voiced Casey Jones in the Nickelodeon animated series Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. He also starred with John Stamos in the Fox comedy series Grandfathered. In 2017, Josh started a comedic lifestyle YouTube channel, Shua Vlogs, featuring his wife Paige O'Brien, David Dobrik, and many of the vlogsquad members. His new book is called Happy People Are Annoying.

Notes:

  • "Do good things and don't get caught doing them."
    • Be of service to others. It seems when we focus on doing good things, good things seem to happen.
  • When Josh was 8 years old, he felt powerless, insecure, and uncomfortable. He was having a family dinner during the holidays... He decided to commit fully to telling a joke. And he earned his first real laugh from his family. At that moment he said, "I decided what I wanted to do with my life." He became a stand-up comedian and eventually an actor.
  • "Laughing is uncontrollable. It's so honest."
  • How to add humor to your business meetings?
    • "The only thing more compelling than a joke is honest vulnerability. Being willing to call yourself. Be human."
      • That vulnerability will bring people closer to you.
  • The power of listening:
    • It helps you constantly make adjustments. Be open, free in the moment.
  • Humor, acting, or leadership... All of those are acquired skills. You have to have the willingness to be bad at it first to get good at it later.
  • Using a chip on your shoulder as motivation?
    • It can work in the short term but doesn't typically work in the long term.
      • "It was the wrong fuel for my engine."
  • "You gotta ask:" When he was 12 years old, he found himself on set telling jokes to an older man. He was cracking the guy up. He didn't realize that person was the President of Nickelodeon. Josh then asked him to be on one of the hit Nickelodeon shows. He eventually got a call that changed his life. After that call, Josh and his mom moved to Los Angeles where he's worked as an actor ever since.
    • You have to be willing to ask. You have to be willing to face rejection or embarrassment.
    • Aaron Sorkin said you can make the hall of fame in baseball striking out 2 out of 3 times. The same is true in life.
  • One of the first people Josh called when he was launching his podcast was Bob Saget. Bob was one of the more famous people he knew. And he immediately responded and said he would record the following week. There are hundreds of stories like this about him. We all should be more like him.
  • Ryan Holiday advice - Get really honest and tell your story. Your journey can help other people.
  • As a dad, Josh wants to correct the trauma of the past... He never met his dad.
  • "Do good things and don't get caught doing them." Be in service of others.
Feb 7, 2022

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Gary Burnison is the CEO of Korn Ferry. Under his leadership, Korn Ferry has been transformed into a global organizational consulting firm with nearly 9,000 colleagues. Burnison is the author of seven leadership and career development books, including a New York Times bestseller.

Notes:

  • In his early days as a CEO, a member of Gary's board who was mentoring him, looked him in the eye and said, “I don’t just want you to be successful—I am going to ensure that you are successful.” Gary was moved by words. Looking back now, he sees that moment as a gift of grace.
  • How he built a career from an entry-level worker to the CEO of a 9,000 person company:
    • Humility and hustle drive careers forward
    • To learn, you must be humble and self-aware.
  • Hiring decisions:
    • "I higher for hunger over pedigree."
  • The Five Graces of Leadership:
    • Gratitude―the attitude that elevates our spirits, boosts morale, and lifts our hearts
    • Resilience―the quality that allows us to achieve beyond our wildest dreams
    • Aspiration―the knowledge that we can make tomorrow better than today
    • Courage―the ability to understand and move beyond our fears
    • Empathy―the understanding needed to connect with others from their perspectives
  • The most impactful leaders have four key skills:
    • Adaptability: Being comfortable with unanticipated changes and diverse situations; being able to adjust to constraints and rebound from adversity.
    • Curiosity: Approaching problems in novel ways; seeing patterns and understanding how to synthesize complex information; having the desire to achieve a deep understanding of things.
    • Detail-oriented: Having the ability to systematically carry out tasks as assigned, with an understanding of the procedures and the importance of exactitude.
    • Tolerance of ambiguity: Being comfortable with uncertainty and willing to make decisions and plans in the face of incomplete information
  • “In today’s world, leadership is all about establishing community and connectivity so everyone can be part of something bigger than themselves.”
    • “To have the grace to create this kind of leadership, we need greater self-awareness and genuine connection to others – particularly in this hybrid work environment where connections are increasingly more challenging to come by.”
  • The #1 predictor of a candidate being effective?
    • Learning agility
      • "Humility is key for lifelong learning."
  • Gary wrote a book called, "Lose The Resume, Land The Job." - Target the opportunity you want. Work to earn a warm introduction.
  • A day in the life as the CEO of Korn Ferry:
    • "You suddenly stop being a person and you start being a function."
    • "Leadership is about inspiring others to believe."
  • How he earned the role of CEO:
    • Continuity helped (he was already working at the company)
    • Vision, purpose, "the why," and the 4 or 5 parts of the strategy laid out moving forward
  • When you're going for a VP role:
    • Make sure it is a fit for you
    • You are interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you
    • Have purpose and passion for the role
  • Why Gary writes so much:
    • "It's therapeutic for me."
    • He likes to write with others to learn from them and gain clarity. "I like to get their point of view and listen to them."
  • How he's built confidence:
    • It comes from life experiences.
      • When Gary was 11 years old, he lived in the middle of Kansas. The moving vans showed up and took their furniture away. His family went bankrupt. In times of crisis, it's critical for the leader to step up.
Jan 31, 2022

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Dr. Ken Blanchard is one of the most influential leadership experts in the world and is respected for his years of groundbreaking work in the fields of leadership and management. He's written 60+ published books... Most notably, The One Minute Manager has sold over 15 million copies. 

Notes:

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  • he One Minute Manager:
    • 1 Minute goals – All struggles go back to one simple thing: communication. Set 3 goals for each employee. Write each of them down in 350 words or less.
    • 1 Minute praisings (“catch people doing the right things”) – Do this immediately following good work. Don’t wait (you might forget). Be specific in your praise.
    • 1 Minute reprimands (later changed to 1 Minute re-directs) - Address this immediately after it happens. Be very specific.
  • "Teach people the power of love instead of the love of power."
  • "Life is what happens to you when you're planning on doing something else."
  • What made The One Minute Manager catch on?
    • It was a parable. Those were rare at that time. It was a short book. A quick read.
  • He started his company in 1979. Charles Schwab told him to name the company after himself... Thus, "The Ken Blanchard Companies" was started.
    • It helped that YPO adopted them quickly.
  • "All good performance starts with clear goals."
  • Create magical moments – For his wife, Margie’s 80th birthday party, They rented a big house in Hawaii for a week surrounded by the people they love. How can you create magical moments?
  • Ken has written 65 books... Only 2 of them by himself. He likes to write with others.
  • Profit is the applause you get for creating a great environment for your people.
  • Expectations:
    • You get what you expect.
  • Humility - Be there to serve others. Humility does not mean you think less of yourself. It means you think of yourself less.
  • Connect the dots between individual roles and the goals of the organization. When people see that connection, they get a lot of energy out of work. They feel the importance, dignity, and meaning in their job.
  • Leadership is not something you do to people. It's something you do with people.
  • Vision is knowing who you are, where you're going, and what will guide your journey.
  • "Many people measure their success by wealth, recognition, power, and status. There's nothing wrong with those, but if that's all you're focused on, you're missing the boat...if you focus on significance -using your time and talent to serve others -that's when truly meaningful success can come your way.:
  • If becoming a high-performing organization is the destination, leadership is the engine.
  • Sustained excellence:
    • They realize it's not all about them
    • They have a sense of humor
    • They listen more than they speak
  • Feedback is the breakfast of champions
  • Get to D4 -- The highest level of development: Competent and Committed.
  • Life/Career Advice:
    • Be a lifetime learner
    • Look for good leaders... Ask them to lunch

 

Jan 24, 2022

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Daniel H. Pink is the author of seven books, including the forthcoming The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward (Riverhead, 2022).  His other books include the New York Times bestsellers When and A Whole New Mind — as well as the #1 New York Times bestsellers Drive and To Sell is Human. Dan’s books have won multiple awards, have been translated into 42 languages, and have sold millions of copies around the world.

Notes:

  • The truth: We regret inactions much more than actions.The lesson: Be bold. Take that chance. In a world full of talkers, be a doer. Have a bias for action.
  • The 3 keys to a productive achiever: empathy/compassion, curiosity, doggedness (consistency).
  • We overvalue intensity and undervalue consistency and doggedness. Continue to show up and do the work.
  • The four core regrets:
    • Foundation regrets - People want stability. (save money, plan for the future)
    • Boldness regrets - "If only I'd taken that chance." People regret not taking the chance.
    • Moral regrets
    • Connection regrets
  • The truth: We deeply regret not asserting ourselves. The lesson: Speak up.
  • Optimizing Regret: Our goal should not be to always minimize regret. Our goal should be to optimize it. By combining the science of anticipated regret with the new deep structure of regret, we can refine our mental model. 
  • “Regret makes me human. Regret makes me better. Regret gives me hope.”
  • This is a great exercise. Instead of a New Year's resolution, choose a single word to guide your 2022. After 2 years of upheaval, it can help you focus on the goals & changes most important to you. Dan's choice? Restore.
  • The Dan Pink family acronym: HAHU - Hustle. Anticipate. Heads up.
  • Big life decisions:
    • Maximizers and satisficers
      • Know when to maximize and when to satisfy. For low stakes decisions (the color of your car), you don't have to maximize
  • Regret is part of the human condition. We all have regrets. Disclose it. Lift the burden.
    • Someone that says they have "No Regrets" is either lying or they are a sociopath.
  • Disclose lessons from your regrets. Ask yourself, "What did I learn from it?"
  • Does everything happen for a reason?
    • The lesson to be learned from it is understanding what we have control over and what we don't.
  • Regret depends on storytelling. And that raises a question: In these stories, are we the creator or the character, the playwright or the performer? The answer is... YES. We are both.
    • We are both the authors and the actors. We can shape the plot but not fully. We can toss aside the script but not always. We live at the intersection of free will and circumstance.
  • "Our everyday lives consist of hundreds of decisions—some of them crucial to our well-being, many of them inconsequential. Understanding the difference can make all the difference. If we know what we truly regret, we know what we truly value. Regret— that maddening, perplexing, and undeniably real emotion—points the way to a life well-lived."
  • Career/Life advice:
    • Doggedness is important. Be a person of action. Be willing to try stuff. "We learn who we are in practice, not in theory." Doing something helps you figure it out.
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