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• How to respond instead of react… The 4 P’s:
  • Pause
  • Process
  • Plan
  • Proceed — Using the 4 Ps will increase your chances of responding better than reacting quickly
• Non-Dual thinking. It’s not this OR that. It’s this AND that. It’s not self-discipline or self-compassion. It can be both. As we learn more, we become more reasonable. The world is not black and white. We can live in the gray and embrace it.
• Brad's core values:
  • Life is the doing of his life (activities, health, workouts, showing up)
  • Love is the being of his life (family, being there for the most important people)
• A new model for navigating change and disorder – A neuroscientist and a biologist coined the phrase allostasis. Allostasis comes from the Greek allo, which means “variable,” and stasis, which means “standing.” Allostasis is defined as “Stability through change.”
• When Brad went to the University of Michigan, he couldn’t go to football games. “It felt pointless to be in the stands instead of on the field, too close to something the loss of which I was still grieving.”
• Science shows that when you fight change, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol.
• Hard Times are always hard – But with practice, they get easier… In a multi-year study of more than 2,000 adults aged 18 to 101 published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, University of Buffalo psychologist, Mark Seery and colleagues found that people who had experienced medium levels of adversity were both higher-functioning and more satisfied with their lives than those who had experienced extremely high levels of adversity as well as those who had experienced hardly any adversity at all…
• Five Questions for Embracing Change:
  • Where in your life are you pursuing fixity where it might be beneficial to open yourself to the possibility, or in some cases, the inevitability of change?
  • In what parts of your life are you holding on to unrealistic expectations?
  • Are there elements of your identity to which you cling too tightly?
  • How might you use your core values– the rugged and flexible boundaries of your identity– to help you navigate the challenges of your life?
  • In what circumstances do you tend to react when you would benefit from responding, and what conditions predispose you to that?
• 10 Tools for Developing Rugged Flexibility:
  • Embrace non-dual thinking
  • Adopt a being orientation
  • Frequently update your expectations to match reality
  • Practice tragic optimism, commit to wise hop, and take wise action
  • Actively differentiate and integrate your sense of self
  • View the world with independent and interdependent lenses
  • Respond to change with the 4 Ps
  • Lean on routines (and rituals) to provide stabiliy during periods of disorder
  • Use behavioral activation
  • Don’t force meaning and growth; let them come on their own time
• True confidence comes from evidence, and it allows you to OWN YOUR SEAT. Owning your seat does not mean certainty, nor does it mean a complete lack of doubts. It means taking your doubts with you and stepping into the arena no less—because you've done the work.
• Easy: showing up when you are at your best and everything is clicking.
• Hard: showing up when you are in a hole and the current is going against you. Most everyone can do the former. But it's the latter that has a huge impact on lasting progress, fulfillment, and success.
• Progress is nonlinear. Keep pounding the stone. Some days nothing happens. Some days it cracks a little bit more. Occasionally, it splits wide open. The implication of this truth is both simple and significant: If you’re addicted to visible progress, then sooner or later, you’ll burn out of whatever you’re pursuing. This is a big reason so many people quit after the honeymoon phase of trying something new.
• Brad's 3 non-negotiable daily practices for physical and mental well-being: 1. Forty-five to ninety minutes of physical activity. 2. At least one deep-focus block of sixty to ninety minutes on good, meaningful work. 3. Do not fight evening sleepiness, which usually means bed by 10PM.
• Don't define yourself by what you have. Define yourself by who you are. On developing a BEING over HAVING orientation, and the strength and freedom that comes with it.

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Matt Higgins was an executive for the New York Jets and then the Miami Dolphins. He Co-Founded RSE Ventures with Miami Dolphins owner, Stephen Ross. Matt was a guest shark on ABC’s Shark Tank (seasons 10-11), He is an executive fellow at Harvard Business School, and he recently published a book called, Burn The Boats, Toss Plan B Overboard and Unleash Your Full Potential...

• Matt's Mom: “My mother, Linda, died with $100 in her bank account, but I inherited the most valuable gift a parent can give a child: limitless faith in my ability to figure anything out.”
• Matt gave the 2019 commencement speech at Queens College – According to Vanity Fair Contributing Editor Paul Goldberger, "This is a magnificent and truly inspiring speech that everyone should read. If you think commencement speeches are made of cliches, this one will change your mind."
• The most important ingredient to professional success: “Make yourself indispensable at whatever task you’re doing and you’ll always have a job.”
• Research proves that the mere contemplation of Plan B statistically reduces the probability Plan A will ever materialize.
• The advice Matt got from Daymond John on how to handle imposter syndrome on his first day of filming Shark Tank: "You belong here because you are here."
• How to raise your kids to not be spoiled when you can provide anything they'd ever want?
  • There is nobility in work. Ensure they do hard things and do real work.
• Matt's "must-have" qualities when hiring a leader:
  • Confidence + Humility
  • Empathy
  • They just "figure it out"
  • They are a servant leader -- They can "plug holes"
• Matt's four-step process:
  • What's the worst that could happen?
  • If it doesn't work out, what will I do?
  • What's the probability the bad stuff will happen?
  • What pain am I willing to endure to make it happen?
• "Burn the boats for goals, not tactics."

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Alex Hormozi is an entrepreneur, investor, and author of 3 bestselling books $100M Offers, Leads, and Money Models. He’s founded and exited 3 companies, the largest for $46.2M in 2021. He and his wife Leila are the managing partners of Acquisition.com - a portfolio of companies that generate in aggregate $200M per year. He also makes mistakes and candidly shares his painful lessons with other entrepreneurs. Today he publicly documents his lessons on his path from $100M net worth to $1B.

• Confidence: “You don't become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self-doubt.”
• Work: "The work works on you more than you work on it."
• For anyone debating whether to marry a partner. These 2 lenses were useful:
  • How have my stats changed since they entered my life? (wealth, health, time)
  • Would I go to war with them?
    • They flow from what Alex wants:
      • Growth
      • Hard goals
• Document your life more. Otherwise, you’ll forget the details. And the details are what make it worth remembering. (homework for life)
• Alex shared a vulnerable story about not wanting to live anymore when he was 21. He had graduated from Vanderbilt in 3 years (manga cum laude), had a great consulting job, and was on his way up the corporate ladder. And he hated it. He was living his dad's dream, not his own. So he quit. And didn't call his dad until he was well on his way to California to start over. 
• "A leading indicator that someone is not an independent thinker is that they agree (or disagree) with every single point of a political party. Also applies to seeing no fault (or 100% fault) in particular leaders."
• “Volume negates luck”
• What makes a great sales professional:
  • Clear communication
  • Conviction
  • Be honest... And have a desire to help your customer
• Life Lessons Alex wishes he had learned earlier:
  • Talk less, listen more… (He messed this up earlier in his career by talking too much)
  • The hardest respect to earn is one's own
  • If you want to control what people think, control what they say – “Equip people with simple language so that they can communicate what you do.”
  • “You get more out of reading 1 book that’s great 5 times, than out of reading 5 mediocre books.” – “If your behavior doesn’t change as a result of reading the book, then it means you’ve learned nothing.”
  • You are going to die – 2 weeks after you die, most people will have forgotten about you. 
  • Extraordinary accomplishments come from doing ordinary things for extraordinary periods of time.
  • If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well
  • Be willing to negotiate everything except for your values
  • Humility - Sacrifice for the group. Give more to the company. Give to the group.
• Hormozi Law:
  • The longer you delay the ask, the bigger the ask you can make. The longer the runway, the bigger the plane that can take off.
  • "At your funeral, friends and family will argue over who gets what. People will want food to eat. The topic will shift from your life to their lives. They'll drive away thinking about their looming to-do list. Some people won't be able to make it because "something came up." A reminder of the heavy weight we place on things that matter little."
  • "There’s no greater waste of time than justifying your actions to people who have a life you don’t want."
  • "The easiest way to change behavior is to change your environment."
• Alex's great-great-grandfather had 400 children.
• "Never skip dessert." 
• "My life has never gotten worse by removing mediocre people."

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Jack Raines is a student at Columbia Business School and the writer of YoungMoney.co – Young Money is a finance blog that covers a wide variety of life topics like why we should travel more, timeless advice, the use of humor, the 6 types of wealth, and infinite games. Jack is one of my favorite writers on the internet…

• Infinite Games – “The focus on outcome over everything leads to us discounting 99% of our lives for the sake of a few, small, fleeting moments that might provide some sense of satisfaction before the cycle begins anew.”
  • It’s not about getting to the top of the mountain, it’s about the person you become along the way.
• Why We Should Travel More – Rolf Potts, Vagabonding. “The explorer has no goal other than exploration itself.”
• The Opportunity Cost of Everything – The Journey IS the Destination. Life isn't a Pixar film. It's not a television series. Our life isn't some chain of events and decisions that leads to a climax. A final moment of victory. Life is the chain of events itself.
  • “Someday isn’t a day.”
• The purpose of Jack's finance blog: “I write a finance blog that is really, like, idk? Maybe 40% finance? The rest is existential musings, satire, the occasional exclamation that Americans seriously need to travel more, and whatever random stuff comes through my brain.”
• Jack's LinkedIn satirical posts: “I take nothing seriously, but I do take the serious things pretty seriously. Linkedin isn't one of the serious things.”
• How Jack built a large following online: "I have published approximately 450,000 words of content in an 18-month period." Whatever it is that we want to do, in order to get good, we have to get going. We have to get the reps…
• The Case for Living Life Backwards – “You should write your obituary, and then try to figure out how to live up to it.”