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Dr. Barry Posner, author of The Leadership Challenge and The Truth About Leadership

• The 4 characteristics of leaders whom we would most choose to follow:
  • Honest (trustworthy, they do what they say they’re going to do)
  • Competent (Smart, and constantly learning)
  • Inspiring - Energetic, enthusiastic. Inspire means to breathe life in to...
  • Forward-looking - They have a sense of the future. They share a compelling vision
• People all have values, but not everyone knows what they are. To know what our values are, we must be thoughtful and intentional about them and do the reflective work to understand what we value most.
• What is Kouzes and Posner's leadership theory? Their research, which they conducted over almost 20 years, suggested that leadership is not a position, but a collection of practices and behaviors. These practices serve as guidance for leaders to accomplish their achievements or “to get extraordinary things done.
• The Leadership Challenge – Leaders drive results and achieve goals. To face the obstacles of today and tomorrow, we need leaders at a high level. The Leadership Challenge gives everyone the tools and practices to Model the Way, Inspire a Shared Vision, Challenge the Process, Enable Others to Act, and Encourage the Hearts of those around them.
• "In the middle of responding to an audience question one of us was saying, “I don’t know what you call something that’s been the same for twenty-five years, but…,” and Ken Blanchard interrupted, exclaiming, 'I’d call it the truth.'"
• The Truth About Leadership
  1. The first truth is that You Make a Difference. 
  2. The second truth is that Credibility Is the Foundation of Leadership. If people don’t believe in you, they won’t willingly follow you. 
  3. The third truth is that Values Drive Commitment. People want to know what you stand for and believe in. 
  4. The fourth truth is that Focusing on the Future Sets Leaders Apart. The capacity to imagine and articulate exciting future possibilities is a defining competence of leaders. You have to take the long-term perspective. 
  5. You Can’t Do It Alone is the fifth truth. Leadership is a team sport…What strengthens and sustains the relationship between leader and constituent is that leaders are obsessed with what is best for others, not what is best for themselves. 
  6. Trust Rules is the sixth truth. Trust is the social glue that holds individuals and groups together. And the level of trust others have in you will determine the amount of influence you have. You have to earn your constituents’ trust before they’ll be willing to trust you. That means you have to give trust before you can get trust. 
  7. The seventh truth is that Challenge Is the Crucible for Greatness. Great achievements don’t happen when you keep things the same. Change invariably involves a challenge, and challenge tests you. 
  8. Truth number eight reminds you that You Either Lead by Example or You Don’t Lead at All. Leaders have to keep their promises and become role models for the values and actions they espouse. 
  9. Truth number nine is that The Best Leaders Are the Best Learners. Leaders are constant improvement fanatics, and learning is the master skill of leadership.
  10. The tenth truth is that Leadership Is an Affair of the Heart. It could also be the first truth. Leaders are in love with their constituents, their customers and clients, and the mission that they are serving. Leaders make others feel important and are gracious in showing their appreciation. Love is the motivation that energizes leaders to give so much for others. You just won’t work hard enough to become great if you aren’t doing what you love.
• Credo = Beliefs (credibility)
• Leadership is a team sport. You can't do it alone.
  • We are all community-made.
• The best leaders are the best learners.
• Challenge is the crucible for greatness.
• Life/Career advice:
  • Remain curious
  • Ask questions
  • Volunteer

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Notes from my conversation with Marshall Goldsmith:

• Attributes of the best leaders he’s worked with:
  • They are courageous, they have humility, and they are disciplined.
• Do we all need a coach?
  • "I don’t know, but if we’re honest with ourselves, we all need help. And a coach can be someone to help…"
• Happiness and achievement are independent variables.
  • I felt we kept going around in circles because I’m a prescriptive thinker and like actionable takeaways. And I feel like Marshall was helping me understand it’s more of a mindset. 
• With a PhD from UCLA, Marshall is a pioneer of 360-degree feedback as a leadership development tool. His early efforts in providing feedback and then following-up with executives to measure changes in behavior were precursors to what eventually evolved as the field of executive coaching.
• “Fate is the hand of cards we’ve been dealt. The choice is how we play the hand.”
• “Getting mad at people for being who they are makes as much sense as getting mad at a chair for being a chair.”
• “Successful people become great leaders when they learn to shift the focus from themselves to others.”
• “People who believe they can succeed see opportunities where others see threats.”
• “If we do not create and control our environment, our environment creates and controls us.”
• “A leader who cannot shoulder the blame is not someone we will follow blindly into battle. We instinctively question that individual’s character, dependability, and loyalty to us. And so we hold back on our loyalty to him or her.”
• “Peter Drucker, who said, “Our mission in life should be to make a positive difference, not to prove how smart or right we are.”
• “People will do something—including changing their behavior—only if it can be demonstrated that doing so is in their own best interests as defined by their own values.”

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• “The big question about how people behave is whether they’ve got an Inner Scorecard or an Outer Scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an Inner Scorecard.” - Warren Buffet – The inner scorecard is about eliminating comparison with others and living in alignment with what’s most important to you. Your values and the behaviors to match those values.
  • The inner scorecard eliminates the comparison of things.
• How to build trust? Laugh together, cry together, suffer together (do hard things).
• Resume virtues versus Eulogy virtues. We’ll get caught up in living for our resume (promotions, money, objects) if we're not intentional. We think it’s better to live for your eulogy virtues (the impact you had on people, fulfilling your purpose, living in alignment with your true values)
• Why a strong purpose beats a good plan: we explain how a strong purpose erases obstacles, is never about you, and is highlighted by considering death.
• Why being the greatest is a mirage: While greatness is a process that is attainable for all, we share why becoming the greatest is a destination that no one can reach.
• How to navigate the tricky art of building trust: Throughout 25 years of teaching and coaching Brook has refined the trust-building process to 3 simple actions every leader can use.
• How to fight the poison of comparison: Our focus on a consistent process over the societal pursuit of results seems contradictory to excellence but just may lay the foundation for its attainment.
• Why self-awareness is not a solo flight: The feedback we seek from special people in our life, our foxhole, reminds us that we are tougher together.
• Why team captains are overrated: Brook connects how the shared ownership of a team is best when all members assume the responsibility of upholding the standards.
• How plain and simple can bore you right to excellence: We like to complicate success, but we point back to a consistent return to the fundamentals.
• Brook originally learned about creating and living his core values from Coach Dick Bennett's "Pillars of Success."
• Brook's values are: Tough, Passionate, Unified, and Thankful.
• My values are: Thoughtful, Thankful, Curious, and Consistent.
• Foxhole friends are disagreeable givers. They are kind enough to give you honest feedback. And you do the same for them.
• Thankful Thursdays
  • Send a text message, email, or handwritten note to three people you're thankful for every Thursday.
• Push the pace... Full-court pressing and always running a fast break on offense is living up to Brook's value of speaking and acting with urgency (unified).
  • How Brook coaches his team to play: "Our anchor defensively is no comfort, no vision. We want you to never be comfortable. And we want the same thing offensively. We say simple and together, but we think of pressing you offensively too. We don't want you to be comfortable. We want you to be on your heels."

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• The SAVERS acronym – Silence, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, Reading, and Scribing. If you implement that consistently, you'll probably do better.
  • 72% of people said they were not a morning person before implementing SAVERS.
• The makeup of a great sales professional:
  • They are coachable...
  • They bring energy and enthusiasm to the job...
  • They are consistent. They can handle rejection and keep going. They focus on the process...
• Affirmations: First, affirm what you’re committed to. Next, why is it a must for you, and finally, affirm the specific actions you will take and when. That’s how you bring affirmations to life…
• Hal died for 6 minutes, broke 11 bones, suffered permanent brain damage, and was told by doctors that he would never walk again. Then, at age 37, he nearly died again when his heart, lungs, and kidneys were on the verge of failing, and he was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive form of cancer.
• “Any time you find yourself “wishing” you were further along than you are, or comparing where you are with where someone else is, keep in mind that when you finally get to point you’ve been working towards for so long, you never wish it would have happened any sooner. Instead, you see that the journey and the timing are perfect. So be at peace with where you are while maintaining a healthy sense of urgency to make the consistent progress each day that will ensure you get to wherever it is that you want to go. "
• “Those who only do what they feel like, don’t do much. To be successful at anything you must take action even when you don’t feel like it, knowing it is the action itself that will produce the motivation you need to follow through.”
• “It’s temporary. Tolerate it, accept it, embrace it, or enjoy it. Whatever it is, just know that it is temporary.”
• “The moment you accept 100% responsibility for EVERY aspect of your life is the moment that you claim the power to change ANY aspect of your life. I think where people get caught up with this is when someone else is to blame for a situation. But understand that accepting responsibility is NOT the same as accepting blame. While blame determines who is at fault for something, responsibility determines who is committed to improving a situation. It really doesn’t matter who was at fault; all that matters is that YOU are committed to improving and creating the circumstances you want for your life, regardless of who is at fault. That’s what taking responsibility is all about.”

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• “Your personal experiences make up maybe 0.00000001% of what’s happened in the world but maybe 80% of how you think the world works.”
  • “All behaviors make sense with enough information.” 
• The best story wins: Good stories have an extraordinary ability to inspire and evoke positive emotions, bringing insight and attention to topics that people tend to ignore when they've previously been presented with nothing but facts.
  • Stories are more powerful than statistics. And most statistics are incomplete props to justify a story. Stories are easier to remember, easier to relate to, and emotionally persuasive.
• Progress requires optimism and pessimism to coexist: A rational optimist. - Save like a pessimist and invest like an optimist. - Plan like a pessimist and dream like an optimist.
•  “It’s supposed to be hard.” – Everything worth pursuing comes with a little pain. The trick is not minding it hurts.
• It's impossible to plan for what you can't imagine. - Invest in preparedness, not in prediction. - Realize that if you're only preparing for the risks you can envision, you'll be unprepared for the risks you can't see every single time.
• Fostering envy vs. admiration. Are you creating envy by what you post on social media?
  • "People admire you when you are pursuing something, not when you have it."
• Reasonable Optimists: Once people believe in a better future – for themselves and others – they become willing to take risks, work hard, sacrifice near-term comfort, delay gratification, and cooperate with others, all of which are the raw ingredients of economic and social progress.
  • A realistic optimist is someone who knows that what happens in any given day, month, or year will be surprising, disappointing, difficult, and mostly out of your control. But they know with equal confidence that what happens in any given decade or generation is likely to be pretty good, bending heavily toward progress.
  • The reasonable optimist expects the world to break all the time. But they know – as a matter of faith – that if they can survive the day-to-day fractures they’ll capture the up-and-to-the-right arc over time.
• Writing: I think "know your audience" can be dangerous advice for writers. Write stuff you yourself find interesting and entertaining. Writing for yourself is fun, and it shows. Writing for others is work, and it shows.
• If you’re efficient, you’re doing it the wrong way (Jerry Seinfeld micro-managed everything about his show). Counterintuitive. Highlights the dangers of shortcuts.
• Be careful what you wish for: A carefree and stress-free life sounds wonderful only until you recognize the motivation and progress it prevents. Hardship is the most potent fuel of problem-solving. And what makes life mean something is purpose. A goal.
• Read less news and more books. If you read good books, you’ll have an easier time figuring out what you should pay attention to. (News isn’t timeless. Good books are)
• Writing: People don’t remember books, blogs, or articles. They remember sentences. That should be your goal: a collection of memorable sentences. One good line is infinitely more powerful than a few clumsy paragraphs.
• Mr Beast tells aspiring YouTubers to make 100 videos and he'll give them feedback and advice. 2 things happen. 98% never get close and give up. The 2% who do, no longer need his help.
• People use success as an indication of what to keep doing. But most success plants the seeds of its own demise, so what people think works and try to copy is always changing.
• Keep running - There is never a time when an investor can discover an investing strategy and be confident it will continue working indefinitely. The world changes, and competitors create their own little twist that exploits and snuffs out your niche. Same with careers, job skills, relationships, and countries. It’s hard to accept that you have to put in a ton of work just to stay in one place, but that’s how it works. Keep running.
• Acceptable Flaws -- Short-term thinking is the root of most of our problems in business, investing, and politics. But I get why it happens. It has to happen. Short-term thinking can be the only way you’ll survive long enough to experience long-term results. It’s an acceptable flaw.
• Useful Biases -- Reasonable ignorance – intentionally limiting your diligence in order to avoid decision paralysis in a world where everything, if you dig deep enough, is more complicated than it seems. (the paradox of choice).
• Progress happens too slowly for people to notice; setbacks happen too fast for people to ignore.
• "Stop telling kids they can be whatever they want to be. You can be whatever you're good at, as long as they're hiring. And even then it helps to know someone." -- Chris Rock
• A good test when reading the news is to constantly ask, “Will I still care about this story in a year? Two years? Five years?”
• “Money buys happiness in the same way drugs bring pleasure: incredible if done right, dangerous if used to mask a weakness, and disastrous when no amount is enough.”
• “I’m not interested in anything that’s not sustainable. Friendships, investing, careers, podcasts, reading habits, exercise habits... If I can’t keep it going, I’m not interested in it.”
• "I know people who have a lot of money, and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is nobody in the world loves them. If you get to my age and nobody thinks well of you, I don’t care how big your bank account is, your life is a disaster.”

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• The power of believing in someone. Mr. Duncan, Shane’s high school English teacher was the first person to tell him that he believed in him. He changed the trajectory of Shane’s life. We, as leaders, can do that for others. Let’s proactively look for opportunities to tell the people we’re leading that we believe in them.
• The difference between Nice and Kind feedback. Too often, the people we ask for feedback are nice but not kind. Kind people will tell you things a nice person will not. A kind person will tell you that you have spinach on your teeth. A nice person won’t because it’s uncomfortable. A kind person will tell us what holds us back, even when it’s uncomfortable. A nice person avoids giving us critical feedback because they’re worried about hurting our feelings.
• Champions: “Champions don’t create the standards of excellence. The standards of excellence create champions.” “Expecting high performance is a prerequisite to its achievement among those who work with you.  Your high standards and optimistic anticipations will not guarantee a favorable outcome, but their absence will assuredly create the opposite.”
• The USS Benfold — was one of the worst-performing warships in the US Navy in 1996. The destiny of the USS Benfold changed the day Michael Abrashoff was named commander.
• Shane was 13 years old. Shane was standing with a group of his friends after school and they were teasing one of his classmates and he was watching. Teachers intervened and it ended quickly. He didn’t realize that your dad was parked nearby and was watching. You have to stand up for people who don't have a voice.
• Warren Buffett: “The big question about how people behave is whether they’ve got an Inner Scorecard or an Outer Scorecard. It helps if you can be satisfied with an Inner Scorecard.”
• Brent Beshore: “My favorite part of the book was the section on habits, rules, and safeguards (page 101). A principle that Shane and I discussed in January changed my life and was expounded on in the book. Shane said, “It’s impossible to work out very often if you have to decide every day whether or not you’ll do it. That’s why I just do something active every day, no matter what.”
• Solutions/Ego: “Solutions appear when you stop bargaining and start accepting the reality of the situation. That’s because focusing on the next move, rather than how you got here in the first place, opens you up to a lot of possibilities. When you put outcome over ego, you get better results.”
• “Small plans don’t inspire, but consistently small actions create incredible results.”
• Knowing Your Defaults:
  • The emotion default - We tend to respond to feelings rather than reasons and facts
  • The ego default - We tend to react to anything that threatens our sense of self-worth or our position in a group hierarchy
  • The social default - We tend to conform to the norms of our larger social group.
  • The Inertia default - We’re habit-forming and comfort-seeking. We tend to resist change, and to prefer ideas, processes, and environments that are familiar.
• Ancient Greek word — Phronesis— the wisdom of knowing how to order your life to achieve the best results.
• Life/Career advice: "I'd give the same advice to someone who's trying to find someone to marry. Go on lots of dates. Experiment. Do stuff. Get out in the world. You can only connect the dots looking backward."
• If you want to develop good judgment, start by asking two questions:
  • What do I want in life?
  • And is what I want actually worth wanting?

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• How can I become a high-rung thinker?
  • High-rung thinking is independent thinking, leaving you free to revise your ideas or even discard them altogether. On the low rungs, it means you’re working to dutifully serve your ideas, not the other way around.
• How can I be the boss of the ideas in my own head?
  • When you’re the boss of the ideas in your head, you’re always willing to revise them. When there’s no amount of evidence that will change your mind about something, it means that idea is your boss. Humility is the awareness that no idea is worthy of being your boss.
• Best advice Tim has ever received:
  • "I met Chris Anderson, the head of TED, in 2015. He had read a few WBW posts and offered me the opportunity to give a TED Talk at the 2016 conference (which was six months away). Immediately full of both gratitude/excitement and dread/anxiety, I asked him if it might be better to wait a couple years until I had some more speaking experience. He paused thoughtfully for a few seconds before saying, “There’s no time like the present.” I took his advice. Since then, his voice saying those words has popped into my head again and again during hard decisions, and I’m yet to regret following them."
    • Great advice is sometimes great because it’s totally original or framed in an original way. But, as in my story, a well-known platitude, at the perfect moment, can also make a huge impact. What makes Chris’s advice so valuable to me wasn’t that it was something new—it was that the lesson I learned from taking the advice in that particular moment turned a cliché into a mantra.
• No one “builds a house.” They lay one brick again and again and again and the end result is a house. A remarkable, glorious achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable, unglorious tasks looks like from far away.
• “If I aired a highlight reel of your most selfish life moments and most shameful thoughts, you'd seem like an awful person. If I aired a reel of your best, kindest moments, you'd seem like a saint. But people aren't highlight reels, and the unedited cut is always a messy mix!”
• Kids Asking WHY? When kids repeatedly ask “why?” they’re trying to see the underlying reasoning behind what they’re told by authorities. “Because I said so” rejects that instinct and says “stop reasoning and obey.” We then become adults who only know how to trust authorities other than ourselves.
• High Rung Thinking:
  • Rung 1 - Thinking like a Scientist. When you’re thinking like a scientist, you start at point A and follow evidence wherever it takes you.
  • Rung 2 - Thinking like a sports fan. They want the game played fairly, but they really want the process to yield a certain outcome. 
  • Rung 3 - Thinking like an attorney. When you think like an attorney, you start from point B. The client is not guilty. Now let’s figure out why. They cherry-pick evidence and piece it together to make an argument that leads where you want it to.
  • Rung 4 - Thinking like a zealot. Their ideas aren’t rugged experiments to be kicked around, they’re fragile, precious babies to be adored and protected. The zealot doesn’t have to go from A to B to know their viewpoints are correct– they just know they are. With 100% conviction.
• Life/Career advice: "I'd give the same advice to someone who's trying to find someone to marry. Go on lots of dates. Experiment. Do stuff. Get out in the world. You can only connect the dots looking backward."

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• “Amateurs focus on outcome. Professionals focus on process.” And if you want to change the process, focus on just one change at a time. He used the fly fishing analogy. You don’t change all three at once. Try one change and re-evaluate.
• I love the idea of creating a personal checklist for yourself much like pilots fill out every time before they fly a plane. We should all create our checklist and fill it out consistently. This is a great tool to become more self-aware.
• Top performers have a thirst for feedback in victory and defeat. The leaders who sustain excellence over time are intentional about surrounding themselves with a kitchen cabinet who is there to regularly provide feedback so that they can iterate and improve. That’s one of the biggest differences between those who sustain excellence over time and those who don’t.
• Goal Setting
  • 34%-42% chance of hitting a goal if you ideate it
  • 62% chance of hitting a goal if you write it down
  • 75% chance of hitting a goal if you verbally share it with others
• Eric developed a psychological “resilience” test that when combined with data on the candidate's physical characteristics became a very good predictor of who would fail BUD/S (97%).
• While working with the Navy SEALs in San Diego, Eric frequently had guests come to observe the SEALs and how they worked. A lot of them were professional athletes like Tiger Woods, Lance Armstrong, Michael Phelps, and many more… While there, Eric asked to interview them. Over time he was able to build an extensive knowledge base of the mental approaches of the world’s top performers.
• “If your brain is firing, it’s wiring.” Learned from downhill skiers...
• Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
  • They accelerate what they value. They move from reputation to identity. They worry less about what others think.
    • One of the biggest regrets of people on their deathbed is that they regret what they didn't do.
    • Capitlize now to have no regrets later.
    • Create a credo (your identity)
  • Mindset
    • They have a growth mindset (instead of a fixed mindset)
    • They are thirsty for feedback (they want feedback in victory and defeat)
    • Eric is agnostic about motivations - Clean fuel vs Dirty fuel
    • They have different mindsets for the roles they play
    • Think of yourself as a dimmer switch -- Sometimes you're white hot, sometimes you need to dim down
  • Efficient and Consistent
    • They manage their time well
    • They sleep 8 hours
    • They don't let life dictate what's important to them.
    • Time = Currency. Block time for what's most important. Color code your calendar.
  • Adversity Tolerance
    • They control their human stress response
    • They have a pre and post-performance routine
    • They set goals
    • They use visualization tools
    • They compartmentalize well
    • They use positive self-talk (they believe)
    • They are good contingency planners
    • They have high levels of self-awareness
    • Like a pilot, they have checklists for themselves
  • Balance and Recovery
    • The more balanced, the more productive
    • Feed all of your pillars
      • Work
      • Health
      • Relationships
      • Hobbies
      • Spirituality
      • Legacy
• Leadership role "Must-Haves"
  • Emotional Intelligence - "Feel for a room"
  • Empathy - Put our own perspective aside to understand others
  • Curiosity - A desire to learn, to know more

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• Charisma: Presence, Power, and Warmth - Show up, be fully there. In that moment with the person in front of you. Flip the switch. Understand your power. And deeply care for others. Be warm, not cold. And it’s important that each of these is expressed with authenticity. That’s how to develop more charisma.
• How to develop our protocol - A simple exercise. Get a sheet of paper. On one side write “DO.” On the other side, write “DON’T.” Think of yourself at your best, what do you do? That’s your protocol. And remember that the worse you feel, the more committed you need to be to your protocol
• It’s always day one. Brian thinks of his time spent with the Navy SEALs. They work to earn their trident every single day. Today is the day. It’s always the right day to earn it. It’s always day 1.
• Arete – An ancient Greek word. We translate it into English as ‘virtue’ or ‘excellence,’ but it has a deeper meaning. Something closer to ‘expressing the best version of yourself moment to moment to moment.’
• Inter-leaving - The basic idea is simple: If you want to learn something, you’re better off varying your practice rather than grooving one identical rep after another.
• Epictetus - One of his students took great lecture notes and captured his wisdom in a manual called the Enchiridion. The Greek word for Enchiridion is translated as “handbook,” and it’s important to note that the word literally means “within” + “hand.”
• Intrinsic versus Extrinsic motivation – Which motivation leads to greater levels of happiness and flourishing? Why? It’s why people who get to the peak of what David Brooks calls the “First Mountain” look around and wonder why they don’t feel fulfilled. They got all the stuff they were told would make them happy and… they’re not.
• Phil Stutz wrote the Foreword – Practice comprised of unusual people. “They refuse to be defined by any single accomplishment. Their Identity is based on a process of endless possibility. They don’t stop creating.”
  • Two primary obstacles getting in our way are fear and laziness. This comes from Phil Stutz...
• AM and PM Bookends – “Get these right and you’re 80% there.”
• Targeted thinking - What do I want? What's needed to get that done?
• Consistency - "Who you are speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you say."
• Unshakeable confidence -- Anti-fragile confidence. You have intense trust that you have what it takes to respond.
• Anti-Fragility - The more life kicks you around, the better you get.
• Emotional stamina - The worse you feel, the more committed you are to your protocol.
• Protocol - Think of yourself at your best... What are you doing?
• Hero - An ancient Greek word for protector
  • Get clear on your identity
  • Sleep, meditate, work out, work, love
• Pilots have checklists before they fly a plane... We should use one too each day.
• Create your "Do" and "Don't" list
• Intrinsic vs Extrinsic motivation -- Deepend relationships, help in your community, focus on your eulogy virtues today...
• Hire a coach... We all need a coach
  • A great coach has believable hope, they see your potential

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Greg Harden is best known for working with 7-time Super Bowl champion Tom Brady. He also worked with Super Bowl MVP Desmond Howard, and 23-time Olympic gold medalist Michael Phelps. Brady, Howard, and other athletes credit Harden with inspiring them to overcome obstacles and achieve success in their professional and personal lives. He’s the author of Stay Sane in an Insane World: How to Control the Controllables and Thrive. The book debuted at #1 on all of Amazon and is a New York Times bestseller.

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• What makes a great interview?
  • They tell stories
  • It feels like your eavesdropping on their conversation (he takes you inside)
  • He disarms them with humor
  • Ask shorter questions…
• Take care of your people… Dan has had the Dannettes with him for many years. He listens to his teammates, Makes them part of his show, and truly cares for him. In return, they are there for him every day. It seems obvious, but it’s not. Dan is evidence that this approach works…
• Dan has been influenced by Howard Stern's interviewing style of always being curious... And he makes his staff part of the show.
• "I love being a voice in your head. You're in your car, driving, and I love being that voice in your head."
• Interviewing... Manage the tension. "Shorter questions get better answers."
• Dan met Adam Sandler at Madison Square Garden and agreed that he would be cast in his next movie... He has since been cast in many more.
• Dan shares the story of meeting Dave Matthews, spilling his beer on him, and then later singing karaoke with him.
• Dan is the author of The Occasionally Accurate Annals of Football: The NFL's Greatest Players, Plays, Scandals, and Screw-Ups (Plus Stuff We Totally Made Up)
• Leaving ESPN – Dan admitted he was hurt when good friend, Sports Illustrated writer Rick Reilly (who would move to ESPN) wrote, "Patrick was making one of the top 5 biggest career mistakes in entertainment history," ranking right under Shelley Long's leaving Cheers and Katie Couric's leaving NBC's Today show for the CBS Evening News.
• Life/Career advice:
  • Be humble, be hungry, have humility, and be ready to go when your opportunity presents itself. The old adage rings true, “You don’t have to get ready if you stay ready.” Always be ready for your opportunity.
• Retirement Tour – Dan Patrick announces he plans to continue the Dan Patrick Show for the next four-and-a-half years with the intention of retiring at the end of 2027.

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• Change happens when we feel empowered. It’s on us to take responsibility for our lives and help others take responsibility for theirs. As leaders, change is more likely to happen for the people we are serving if we help them feel empowered.
• Listening is not a passive activity. Take it seriously. It starts with genuinely caring for the person you’re in conversation with.
• “Being disliked is a rite of passage.” Being disliked is normal. Being uncomfortable about being disliked is also normal. Reminding your Self that how you feel about your Self matters more than how others feel about you is key.
• Sense of self – “Sense of self is not something that is found… We create our sense of self…”
• "My interest in psychology stems from my personal experience living through wars, navigating complex relationships, and continually learning what it means to be human."
• This book is about facing ourselves –whatever version that might be, regardless of whether or not we like the person we see reflected back to us. It's about what's possible once we realize that we are responsible for who we become and how we live our lives (a daunting, but profoundly liberating idea). IT'S ON US to figure out the two most essential questions: "Who am I" and "Why am I here?" and then live accordingly.
• "I am thankful for my struggle because, without it, I wouldn't have stumbled across my strength."
• Repeat out loud: "I will stop giving second chances to people who don't want it, won't use it, or don't deserve it."
• "The deepest form of loneliness comes from being estranged from ourselves, not from others."
• "Comparison doesn’t just steal our joy, it also screws with our perspective."
• "Mistakes don’t have to define you. But what you choose to do after a mistake often does."
• "Just a gentle reminder: The worst-case scenario that you’re playing out in your head is probably not going to happen."
• "Don’t confuse the snippets you get to see of someone’s life (through media or a casual conversation) as their whole story. Give each other the courtesy of curiosity. Allow people to be undefined in your mind. Actively seek to see them, and allow them to show you who they are."
• "If you don’t have all the information, stop filling in the blanks with your imagination, fears or projections. It’s better to learn to sit with an unclear picture than to carry around an inaccurate one."
• "Instant gratification can be a form of self-harm."
• "If you’re doing the work, you deserve to be with someone who is also doing the work. It’s simple."
• "Relationship tip: When someone tells you what they want (or don’t want) through words or actions — listen. Stop assuming you know better than they do. It’s not your job to read their mind, anticipate their needs, or save them."

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• What’s the Matthew Effect? The Matthew effect explains how two people can start in nearly the same place and end up worlds apart. In these kinds of systems, initial conditions matter. And as time goes on, they matter more and more.
• Instead of saving a fixed percentage of your income, save more when you earn more and less when you make less.
• The best way to save more is to earn more, not cut expenses to the point of being miserable.
• The real question money forces us to answer is what’s important to us in life.
• You should save what you can, when you can. Relying on a fixed, prescribed savings rate is nonsense.
  • The Dolly Varden trout, an Alaskan fish species, puzzled biologists for decades. Despite only having a brief window of plentiful food each year — when salmon laid eggs in their waters — the fish continued to thrive year-round. How did they do it? Eventually, scientists discovered that the fish shrink and grow their digestive organs depending on food availability. When the salmon show up, they speed up their metabolism so they can take in more calories. Then, when the other fish leave, they slow down digestion. This way, they get by with much less food throughout the remainder of the year.
• Great Things Take Time – Focusing on the long term is more important than ever. The story of the “Dashrath Manjhi Breakthrough” – He carved a path through a mountain. He moved a little bit of rock each day for 20 years.
• Nick committed to writing one blog per week in 2017. And it changed his life. He learned that storytelling is what captures a reader’s attention. And the way to develop good stories is to read a lot, from a wide variety of sources. We all can do this.
• One decision can change everything. NASA decided that Voyager 2 would slingshot around planets has made it the farthest man-made object from Earth. And it’s still producing information for us.
• The Constant Reminder – How the Right Decisions and Compounding Can Lead to Huge Results. How have the decisions made by NASA 40 years ago had a profound effect on the Voyager missions and success to this day? Once a successful process is implemented, the results can be surprising. The point is to show you that making the right choices and letting things run their course can lead to incredible results. This is what makes consistent actions and the power of compounding so amazing. "When I think about creating a new habit in my life, I like to imagine all of the future benefits from that habit discounted back to the moment when the habit is formed."

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• The pursuit of mastery is part of a process. It’s an orientation towards experience. It’s about being fully absorbed in the moment.
• Our fear of other people’s opinions (FOPO) has become irrational and unproductive, and its negative effects reach far beyond performance. If you start paying less and less attention to what makes you you—your talents, beliefs, and values—and start conforming to what others may or may not think, you’ll harm your potential.
• Acknowledgments: “To Lisa, the love of my life. “It’s because of you that I no longer pray for calm waters, but to rather test the strength of our sails.”
• Basing self-worth on performance –  when the core motivation of pursuing excellence is proving our self-worth, mistakes, failures, opinions, and criticism are experienced as threats rather than learning opportunities.
• A Learner’s Mindset  - A student came to a renowned monk and asked to learn about Zen Buddhism. Shortly after the monk launched into his discourse, the student interrupted him and said, “Oh, I already know that” in an attempt to impress the monk. The monk suggested they discuss the matter over tea. When the tea was ready, the monk poured the tea into a teacup, filled it to the brim—and then continued to pour—spilling tea over the sides of the cup and onto the table. The student watched the overflowing cup until he could no longer restrain himself, “Stop! You can’t pour tea into a full cup.” The monk set the teapot down and replied, “Exactly. Return to me when your cup is empty.”
  • “Anchoring our sense of self in discovery is not a cop-out to avoid committing to who we are; rather, it’s simply an acknowledgment that we change with time.”
• Harvard psychology professor Dan Gilbert points out, “Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished.”
• Purpose over Approval – From a young age, we are conditioned to seek approval. Over time, we develop a built-in mechanism to check outside ourselves to see if everything is okay. But… we have another choice. That is our purpose…
• “Purpose is the belief that you are alive to do something. It is an internally derived, generalized intention that’s both meaningful to you and consequential to the world beyond you.”
• Optimism isn't soft. in fact, it sits at the center of mental toughness. Have you conditioned your mind for optimism?
• Dr. Mike has worked with Satya Nadella, CEO of Microsoft, and his leadership team to develop psychological principles and practices for high-performing teams and cultures.
• As a sport psychology consultant, he was a member of the Seattle Seahawks team for 9 seasons, including two back-to-back Super Bowl appearances (winning in 2014). His primary objective was to assist Head Coach, Pete Carroll, to build a mindset-based culture.
• For Red Bull Stratos, Dr. Mike helped Felix Baumgartner manage his mind and body under pressure for his record-setting skydive from 128,000 feet.
• We need to make a fundamental commitment to practice at the edge of our capacity. One of the prompts I use in my life is, “What did I do today to push my edges?” What did I do that was uncomfortable… And making the commitment to stack day after day of pushing my edges makes that comfort zone bigger and bigger. Ask yourself, “What did I do today to push my edges?”
• FOPO shows up almost everywhere in our lives—and the consequences are great. When we let FOPO take control, we play it safe and small because we're afraid of what will happen on the other side of critique. When challenged, we surrender our viewpoint. We trade in authenticity for approval. We please rather than provoke. We chase the dreams of others rather than our own.

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• Gratitude – For Tim’s last speech as a congressman, he said “It’s an honor to be a citizen of the United States. I think we get out of this mess we’re in, the polarization, the hate, the anger, the fear… The first step out of that is with gratitude.”
• Tim opens by sharing the impact his high school football coaches had on him and why playing quarterback at John F. Kennedy High School prepared him for life as a leader...
• In 2002, Tim ran for the United States House of Representatives for the 17th District.  Tim was initially seen as an underdog in a 6-way primary. He was elected at age 29.
• "There is an exhausted majority in the country, and they feel like they don't have any political home at all," Ryan said, describing his target audience as those who have been "checking out." "That's maddening because that gives a bigger voice to those forces of division and hate and anger, so we want to build an organization that welcomes these people to participate.”
• AOC endorsed Tim for his Senate run in 2022. And he said, “It’s not helpful here. Nor did I seek it.”
• David Axelrod said about Tim's 2022 Senate Run that “he's running the best campaign in the country. And the best campaign in the country may not be enough.”
• “Dave Matthews has inspired me to live a better life, to do what’s right, that it’s okay to care about each other."
  • “There may be some things where we don’t agree, but I think we need to have decent people that care about us in government, and I think Tim is a decent man.” -- Dave Matthews
  • “I’m honored to have Dave Matthews, one of my absolute favorite musicians, in the Buckeye State to fire up our team and bring this thing home.”
• Being in the moment – The campaign trail is grueling. Every day is a new town with new people. And you need to get up and give your stump speech, listen to people, and tell compelling stories. His mantra of “I am only in control of this stump speech,” and Tim’s ability to stay in the moment was critical and is a key reason why he’s done so well over the years.
• Tim's grandfather… And the impact he had on his life. “He was there."
  • Regardless of the weather or whatever he had going on, Tim felt his grandfather’s presence as a servant leader. This is an excellent reminder for us as leaders that our first job is to show up consistently for those we are leading.

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• “Intention means every decision, from the most obviously significant to the seemingly mundane, matters.”
• “My dad says “The best way to learn is to teach.” He taught me to study for tests as if I were going in to deliver a presentation. At EMP, I made teaching part of our culture.”
  • "Public speaking is a leadership skill."
• Excellence is about small details — A couple of examples of that were lighting and music.
  • “Maybe people don’t notice every single individual detail, but in aggregate, they’re powerful. In any great business, most of the details you closely attend to are ones that only a tiny, tiny percentage of people will notice.”
• "Some of the best advice I ever got about starting in a new organization is; Don’t cannonball. Ease into the pool."
• Magic: “Too many people approach creative brainstorming by taking what’s practical into consideration way too early in the process. Start with what you want to achieve, instead of limiting yourself to what’s realistic or sustainable.”
• “Sometimes magic is just someone spending more time on something than anyone else might reasonably expect.” – Penn and Teller
• "Often, the perfect moment to give someone more responsibility is before they’re ready."
• The daily 30-minute meeting: “A daily 30-minute meeting is where a collection of individuals becomes a team.”
• Find hidden treasures: Will's dad had his own platoon in Vietnam. It wasn’t a great platoon. On it was a guy nicknamed Kentucky, Kentucky was lazy and wasn’t in great shape. He wasn’t that smart, but he was skilled directionally and had a great feel for being in the woods. 
  • “A leader’s responsibility is to identify the strengths of the people on their team, no matter how buried those strengths might be.”
• “Business like life is all about how you make people feel. It’s that simple and that hard.” - Danny Meyer
• "In restaurants, our reason for being is to make people feel, seen, it's to make them feel welcome, it's to give them a sense of belonging. The food, the service, the design, they are simply ingredients in the recipe of human connection"
• “The One Minute Manager by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson. I still give The One Minute Manager to every person I promote. It’s an amazing resource, in particular on how to give feedback. My biggest takeaways were: Criticize the behavior, not the person. Praise in public; criticize in private. Praise with emotion, criticize without emotion.”
• “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”
• “What criticism offers you, then, is an invitation to have your perspective challenged—or at least to grow by truly considering it. You might stick with a choice you’ve been criticized for or end up somewhere completely different. The endgame isn’t the point as much as the process: you grow when you engage with another perspective and decide to decide again.”
• “The aggregation of marginal gains,” or a small improvement in a lot of areas. In his words: “The whole principle came from the idea that if you broke down everything you could think of that goes into riding a bike, and then improve it by 1 percent, you will get a significant increase when you put them all together.”

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• Arnold Schwarzenegger wrote the foreword. “I’ve known Adam for more than 10 years. In addition to being one of the smartest people in nutrition I’ve met, he’s the perfect person to blaze a better path that provides a more direct, realistic, and effective way to improve your health and mindset and achieve your goals.”
• Take the attitude of an intern. Adam shares how he impressed Arnold Schwarzenegger. Be kind. Show up. Be consistent. Do great work. Don’t be greedy. Be generous. And keep going. That great work led to the introduction to LeBron James. Adam has done a great job of making the most of the luck he’s received.
• Self-perception: how changing your thoughts and releasing mental baggage make adopting new behaviors, such as eating healthy, easier.
• This is a thorough examination of why most diet plans fail, including research and case studies that demonstrate the inefficacy of restriction.
• Book Dedication: “Dad, You were given a death sentence and turned it into a life sentence. That’s the power of a different mindset. Thanks for showing me the way. I love you.” Adam's dad was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and he's been very optimistic in the face of it. 
  • "Most people fail physically because they are broken mentally."
• Inversion: Start at the end. Anticipate that you didn't achieve your goal, and ask why? And then ask, how do I prevent that from happening?
• The three tactical things you can do:
  • Self-perception - Believe you can do it
  • Find things you love and don't remove them
  • Add 1 or 2 new behaviors that are easy to win
• How to manage your diet:
  • Slow down your eating
  • Create a meal boundary (have open and closed kitchen times)
  • Low fat vs Low carbs - Protein and fiber are needed
• Have no 0% weeks. Make progress.

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Eric Musselman is the head men’s basketball coach at the University of Arkansas. Prior to his time at Arkansas, he was a head coach in the NBA with the Golden State Warriors and the Sacramento Kings. He’s also spent time as the national coach for the Dominican Republic National Team and The Venezuela National Team.

• Learn from others. Muss shared many examples of times he's gone to other practices to watch and learn. He prefers to watch how and NFL runs practice and he's modeled his practices after NFL teams. And sends his coaches to do the same. This is something we should do in corporate America. Connect with leaders at other companies and visit them. Watch their meetings, their 1 on 1s, and embed yourself in their culture for a few days. 
  • When Muss got fired as the coach of the Golden State Warriors, he was offered office space (from Mike Lombardi) at the Oakland Raiders facility. While there, he learned the ins and outs of running a professional program and has modeled a lot of his system from that experience.
• Leadership "Must-Haves" to be on his staff:
  • Loyalty
  • Will to win
  • Specialty area of expertise
• Meetings: PREPARE a lot. Grab their attention. Keep them on their toes with surprises. All of these things can be done in business meetings… BUT it takes time and effort to do it well.
• Muss's life philosophy is to be a constant learner AND a great communicator. He takes pages of notes with him to the gym every morning and reads, takes notes, and highlights the entire time. Then he synthesizes what he’s learned and shares it with his team. We all can do this. Again, it takes intentional effort, but it’s worth it.
• At the beginning of each practice, he does a “classroom” session with his team. He teaches a life lesson or a lesson on basketball.
• Family Coaching Legacy – Musselman’s father Bill was also an NBA head coach and they were the first father-son combination to become head coaches in the NBA. His sons work with him at Arkansas.
• “Muss is a magician with how he communicates with referees.” He works to build a genuine relationship with them.
• His coaching staff has metrics they produce that help him engineer how playing time and combinations of players on the floor can produce a win.
• His practices are legendary. Like a well-oiled machine. Everyone has a role. And they are open to the public.
  • If a player isn’t in a drill, he better be on the sideline dribbling or practicing his game in some way. Always improving, always working.
• Muss has a reputation for being the college coach who can get you to the NBA. He is extremely well-connected in the NBA. If a kid wants to enter the draft, Muss will do his homework to see where he thinks he'll get drafted, and then sit down with the kid and his parents to give him feedback.
• He revolutionized the use of the transfer portal and is extremely organized when a new prospect pops up.
• On his blog, Musselman wrote about the importance of matching an offense to the "team's makeup." Depending on the roster, a half-court offense might make more sense. In other cases, a team may be better suited for an "open offense." According to Musselman, the idea is to allow players to "play to their strengths."

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• How to respond instead of react… The 4 P’s:
  • Pause
  • Process
  • Plan
  • Proceed — Using the 4 Ps will increase your chances of responding better than reacting quickly
• Non-Dual thinking. It’s not this OR that. It’s this AND that. It’s not self-discipline or self-compassion. It can be both. As we learn more, we become more reasonable. The world is not black and white. We can live in the gray and embrace it.
• Brad's core values:
  • Life is the doing of his life (activities, health, workouts, showing up)
  • Love is the being of his life (family, being there for the most important people)
• A new model for navigating change and disorder – A neuroscientist and a biologist coined the phrase allostasis. Allostasis comes from the Greek allo, which means “variable,” and stasis, which means “standing.” Allostasis is defined as “Stability through change.”
• When Brad went to the University of Michigan, he couldn’t go to football games. “It felt pointless to be in the stands instead of on the field, too close to something the loss of which I was still grieving.”
• Science shows that when you fight change, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol.
• Hard Times are always hard – But with practice, they get easier… In a multi-year study of more than 2,000 adults aged 18 to 101 published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, University of Buffalo psychologist, Mark Seery and colleagues found that people who had experienced medium levels of adversity were both higher-functioning and more satisfied with their lives than those who had experienced extremely high levels of adversity as well as those who had experienced hardly any adversity at all…
• Five Questions for Embracing Change:
  • Where in your life are you pursuing fixity where it might be beneficial to open yourself to the possibility, or in some cases, the inevitability of change?
  • In what parts of your life are you holding on to unrealistic expectations?
  • Are there elements of your identity to which you cling too tightly?
  • How might you use your core values– the rugged and flexible boundaries of your identity– to help you navigate the challenges of your life?
  • In what circumstances do you tend to react when you would benefit from responding, and what conditions predispose you to that?
• 10 Tools for Developing Rugged Flexibility:
  • Embrace non-dual thinking
  • Adopt a being orientation
  • Frequently update your expectations to match reality
  • Practice tragic optimism, commit to wise hop, and take wise action
  • Actively differentiate and integrate your sense of self
  • View the world with independent and interdependent lenses
  • Respond to change with the 4 Ps
  • Lean on routines (and rituals) to provide stabiliy during periods of disorder
  • Use behavioral activation
  • Don’t force meaning and growth; let them come on their own time
• True confidence comes from evidence, and it allows you to OWN YOUR SEAT. Owning your seat does not mean certainty, nor does it mean a complete lack of doubts. It means taking your doubts with you and stepping into the arena no less—because you've done the work.
• Easy: showing up when you are at your best and everything is clicking.
• Hard: showing up when you are in a hole and the current is going against you. Most everyone can do the former. But it's the latter that has a huge impact on lasting progress, fulfillment, and success.
• Progress is nonlinear. Keep pounding the stone. Some days nothing happens. Some days it cracks a little bit more. Occasionally, it splits wide open. The implication of this truth is both simple and significant: If you’re addicted to visible progress, then sooner or later, you’ll burn out of whatever you’re pursuing. This is a big reason so many people quit after the honeymoon phase of trying something new.
• Brad's 3 non-negotiable daily practices for physical and mental well-being: 1. Forty-five to ninety minutes of physical activity. 2. At least one deep-focus block of sixty to ninety minutes on good, meaningful work. 3. Do not fight evening sleepiness, which usually means bed by 10PM.
• Don't define yourself by what you have. Define yourself by who you are. On developing a BEING over HAVING orientation, and the strength and freedom that comes with it.

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Matt Higgins was an executive for the New York Jets and then the Miami Dolphins. He Co-Founded RSE Ventures with Miami Dolphins owner, Stephen Ross. Matt was a guest shark on ABC’s Shark Tank (seasons 10-11), He is an executive fellow at Harvard Business School, and he recently published a book called, Burn The Boats, Toss Plan B Overboard and Unleash Your Full Potential...

• Matt's Mom: “My mother, Linda, died with $100 in her bank account, but I inherited the most valuable gift a parent can give a child: limitless faith in my ability to figure anything out.”
• Matt gave the 2019 commencement speech at Queens College – According to Vanity Fair Contributing Editor Paul Goldberger, "This is a magnificent and truly inspiring speech that everyone should read. If you think commencement speeches are made of cliches, this one will change your mind."
• The most important ingredient to professional success: “Make yourself indispensable at whatever task you’re doing and you’ll always have a job.”
• Research proves that the mere contemplation of Plan B statistically reduces the probability Plan A will ever materialize.
• The advice Matt got from Daymond John on how to handle imposter syndrome on his first day of filming Shark Tank: "You belong here because you are here."
• How to raise your kids to not be spoiled when you can provide anything they'd ever want?
  • There is nobility in work. Ensure they do hard things and do real work.
• Matt's "must-have" qualities when hiring a leader:
  • Confidence + Humility
  • Empathy
  • They just "figure it out"
  • They are a servant leader -- They can "plug holes"
• Matt's four-step process:
  • What's the worst that could happen?
  • If it doesn't work out, what will I do?
  • What's the probability the bad stuff will happen?
  • What pain am I willing to endure to make it happen?
• "Burn the boats for goals, not tactics."

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Alex Hormozi is an entrepreneur, investor, and author of 3 bestselling books $100M Offers, Leads, and Money Models. He’s founded and exited 3 companies, the largest for $46.2M in 2021. He and his wife Leila are the managing partners of Acquisition.com - a portfolio of companies that generate in aggregate $200M per year. He also makes mistakes and candidly shares his painful lessons with other entrepreneurs. Today he publicly documents his lessons on his path from $100M net worth to $1B.

• Confidence: “You don't become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self-doubt.”
• Work: "The work works on you more than you work on it."
• For anyone debating whether to marry a partner. These 2 lenses were useful:
  • How have my stats changed since they entered my life? (wealth, health, time)
  • Would I go to war with them?
    • They flow from what Alex wants:
      • Growth
      • Hard goals
• Document your life more. Otherwise, you’ll forget the details. And the details are what make it worth remembering. (homework for life)
• Alex shared a vulnerable story about not wanting to live anymore when he was 21. He had graduated from Vanderbilt in 3 years (manga cum laude), had a great consulting job, and was on his way up the corporate ladder. And he hated it. He was living his dad's dream, not his own. So he quit. And didn't call his dad until he was well on his way to California to start over. 
• "A leading indicator that someone is not an independent thinker is that they agree (or disagree) with every single point of a political party. Also applies to seeing no fault (or 100% fault) in particular leaders."
• “Volume negates luck”
• What makes a great sales professional:
  • Clear communication
  • Conviction
  • Be honest... And have a desire to help your customer
• Life Lessons Alex wishes he had learned earlier:
  • Talk less, listen more… (He messed this up earlier in his career by talking too much)
  • The hardest respect to earn is one's own
  • If you want to control what people think, control what they say – “Equip people with simple language so that they can communicate what you do.”
  • “You get more out of reading 1 book that’s great 5 times, than out of reading 5 mediocre books.” – “If your behavior doesn’t change as a result of reading the book, then it means you’ve learned nothing.”
  • You are going to die – 2 weeks after you die, most people will have forgotten about you. 
  • Extraordinary accomplishments come from doing ordinary things for extraordinary periods of time.
  • If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well
  • Be willing to negotiate everything except for your values
  • Humility - Sacrifice for the group. Give more to the company. Give to the group.
• Hormozi Law:
  • The longer you delay the ask, the bigger the ask you can make. The longer the runway, the bigger the plane that can take off.
  • "At your funeral, friends and family will argue over who gets what. People will want food to eat. The topic will shift from your life to their lives. They'll drive away thinking about their looming to-do list. Some people won't be able to make it because "something came up." A reminder of the heavy weight we place on things that matter little."
  • "There’s no greater waste of time than justifying your actions to people who have a life you don’t want."
  • "The easiest way to change behavior is to change your environment."
• Alex's great-great-grandfather had 400 children.
• "Never skip dessert." 
• "My life has never gotten worse by removing mediocre people."

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Jack Raines is a student at Columbia Business School and the writer of YoungMoney.co – Young Money is a finance blog that covers a wide variety of life topics like why we should travel more, timeless advice, the use of humor, the 6 types of wealth, and infinite games. Jack is one of my favorite writers on the internet…

• Infinite Games – “The focus on outcome over everything leads to us discounting 99% of our lives for the sake of a few, small, fleeting moments that might provide some sense of satisfaction before the cycle begins anew.”
  • It’s not about getting to the top of the mountain, it’s about the person you become along the way.
• Why We Should Travel More – Rolf Potts, Vagabonding. “The explorer has no goal other than exploration itself.”
• The Opportunity Cost of Everything – The Journey IS the Destination. Life isn't a Pixar film. It's not a television series. Our life isn't some chain of events and decisions that leads to a climax. A final moment of victory. Life is the chain of events itself.
  • “Someday isn’t a day.”
• The purpose of Jack's finance blog: “I write a finance blog that is really, like, idk? Maybe 40% finance? The rest is existential musings, satire, the occasional exclamation that Americans seriously need to travel more, and whatever random stuff comes through my brain.”
• Jack's LinkedIn satirical posts: “I take nothing seriously, but I do take the serious things pretty seriously. Linkedin isn't one of the serious things.”
• How Jack built a large following online: "I have published approximately 450,000 words of content in an 18-month period." Whatever it is that we want to do, in order to get good, we have to get going. We have to get the reps…
• The Case for Living Life Backwards – “You should write your obituary, and then try to figure out how to live up to it.”

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Dr. Julie Gurner is a doctor of psychology and is a nationally recognized executive performance coach for individual and corporate clients primarily in finance and technology. Trusted by top percentile talent and their teams to help them achieve world-class performance in fast-paced, high-pressure, extremely competitive environments. She's been compared to Wendy Rhoades of "Billions" in The Wall Street Journal (2019), and named a “Game Changer” by IBM.

Notes:

• High Standards: Holding a high bar is uncomfortable because it is "exclusionary," and most people want to make everyone around them happy & comfortable. If you hold a standard, it can't include everything... Figuring out your line & holding to it, will mean some tough conversations.
• “I think that there are two ways of looking at things that have happened to you. You can be a victim or you can be a survivor. Those are two very different cognitive positions."
• Balance: “People will tell you in books that you have to live a “balanced life,” but if we are completely honest, almost all great things are born from periods of imbalance.”
• Staying Small: A concept I believe, is that most people stay small, or don't go for what they truly want...because they believe that "imaginary rules" are true
• Be a Learner: The worst professionals, are the ones that stop learning the moment they graduate from school. And they are the majority. Being autodidactic - a self-learner - who also takes initiative, will have you in the top 10% of anything you take on.
• Goals: If your goals are "realistic," you are operating in a box. Check yourself. "If you want to be a game changer, you can’t blend in."
• Know Yourself: When people are unable to commit to anything, it’s because they don’t know who they are. Shiny objects professionally (or personally) reflect a lack of certainty.
• When you get a genuine shot in the arm from what you do...of course, it's going to be hard to stop doing it. You're on fire. So many people are living their lives with the volume turned down. They don't get it. You don't have to live that way. Crank that energy up.
• "The people who rise aren't always the most talented or capable, but they are fueled by self-belief. Once you understand that, much of the business world makes sense."
• The difference between persistence and tenacious… persistent people stick to the plan to get to the goal. Tenacious people may change their plans altogether.
• A trait in the people who go on to do great things? Paul Graham defines it as being “relentlessly resourceful.” I see it all the time. Here’s a practical zero-to-one process to be relentlessly resourceful, if you want to set yourself up for some big swings.
• Julie goes on a daily walk around her farm. She uses that walk to reflect, think, and be outside. It helps her synthesize information. 
• What makes a great executive coach?
  • A sweet spot between talking and listening... A great executive coach gives their clients space to talk. They listen. They ask great follow-up questions. They help unlock people. They help them become multipliers. 
• How to deal with imposter syndrome?
  • "You probably have the ability, but you're not understanding your own story." It's important to keep taking chances. To keep meeting the moment. Julie helps her clients tap in to and write their own stories. 

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Aron Ralston is a mountaineer, mechanical engineer, and best-selling author known for surviving a canyoneering accident by cutting off part of his own right arm. On April 26, 2003, during a solo descent of Bluejohn Canyon in southeastern Utah, he dislodged a boulder, pinning his right wrist to the side of the canyon wall. After five days, he had to break his forearm, amputate it with a dull pocket knife to break free, make his way through the rest of the canyon, rappel down a 65-foot drop, and hike 7 miles to safety. The incident is documented in Aron’s autobiography Between a Rock and a Hard Place and is the subject of the 2010 film 127 Hours in which he is portrayed by James Franco. After the accident, Aron continued mountaineering and became the first person to ascend all of Colorado's fourteeners solo in winter.

• "Turn boulders into blessings."
• During this conversation, Aron takes us through the 127 hours from when his right arm was pinned under a boulder until he was resting safely in a hospital bed. Along the way, he shares key learnings that all of us can take from his experience.
• In April 2003, Aron was canyoneering alone through Bluejohn Canyon, in Utah, just south of the Horseshoe Canyon unit of Canyonlands National Park. While he was descending the lower stretches of the slot canyon, a suspended boulder dislodged while he was climbing down from it. The boulder first smashed his left hand and then crushed his right hand against the canyon wall. Aron had not informed anyone of his hiking plans, nor did he have any way to call for help.
  • Assuming that he would die without intervention, he spent five days slowly sipping his small amount of remaining water, approximately 350 ml (12 imp fl oz), and slowly eating his small amount of food, two burritos, while repeatedly trying to extricate his arm. His efforts were futile as he was unable to free his arm from the 800 lb (360 kg) chockstone. After three days of trying to lift and break the boulder, the dehydrated and delirious Ralston prepared to amputate his trapped arm at a point on the mid-forearm in order to escape. After having experimented with tourniquets and having made exploratory superficial cuts to his forearm, he realized, on the fourth day, that in order to free his arm he would have to cut through the bones in it, but the tools available were insufficient to do so.
  • After running out of food and water on the fifth day, Aron decided to drink his own urine. He carved his name, date of birth, and presumed date of death into the sandstone canyon wall, and videotaped his last goodbyes to his family. He did not expect to survive the night, but as he attempted to stay warm he began hallucinating and had a vision of himself playing with a future child while missing part of his right arm. Aron credited this as giving him the belief that he would live.
  • After waking at dawn the following day he discovered that his arm had begun to decompose due to the lack of circulation, and became desperate to tear it off.  Aron then had an epiphany that he could break his radius and ulna bones using torque against his trapped arm. He did so, then amputated his forearm with his multi-tool, using the dull 2-inch knife and pliers for the tougher tendons. The painful process took an hour, during which time he used tubing from a CamelBak as a tourniquet, taking care to leave major arteries until last. The manufacturer of the multi-tool was never named, but Aron said "It was not a Leatherman but what you'd get if you bought a $15 flashlight and got a free multi-use tool."
  • After freeing himself, Ralston climbed out of the slot canyon in which he had been trapped, rappelled down a 65-foot sheer wall, then hiked out of the canyon. He was 8 miles from his car and had no phone. However, after 6 miles of hiking, he encountered a family on vacation from the Netherlands; Eric and Monique Meijer and their son Andy, who gave him food and water and hurried to alert the authorities. Aron had feared he would bleed to death; he had lost 40 pounds, including 25% of his blood volume. Rescuers searching for Ralston, alerted by his family that he was missing, had narrowed the search down to Canyonlands and he was picked up by a helicopter in a wide area of the canyon. He was rescued approximately four hours after amputating his arm.
• The STOP acronym: Stop (pause), Think (brainstorm), Observation, Plan
  • Stop
  • Think
  • Observe
  • Plan
• "Commitment is the first step."
• At one point when Aron's arm was stuck under the giant rock, he filmed his "goodbyes" to each family member.
  • "Who would you say your goodbyes to and what would you say?" Aron realized that life is all about loving relationships.
• "You can't hold despair and gratitude at the same time."
• 127 Hours - There is no force so powerful as the will to live.
  • Aron's version: "There's no force so powerful as the will to love."
• "Welcome adversity. It helps you grow."
• "Find gratitude for the worst thing that's ever happened to you."
• “Passion. That which I suffer, allow, endure, is done to me.”

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• Be on time. It's not okay to be late. As the leader, we have to set the right example.
• There is a narrow path to Top Gun, but Dave made it...
• Dave served as an ANGLICO Forward Air Controller supporting the Army’s 1st Armored Division during extensive urban combat operations on the ground in Ramadi, Iraq in 2006. He led his supporting arms liaison team on scores of combat missions into the most dangerous neighborhoods and accompanied SEAL Task Unit Bruiser on virtually every major operation in the Battle of Ramadi. He was the only Marine selected to fly the F-22 Raptor having served as an exchange officer at the Air Force’s 422nd Test and Evaluation Squadron as the Division Commander. He became the first operational pilot ever to fly and be qualified in the F-35B, serving as the Commanding Officer of the Marine Corps’ first F-35 squadron from 2012-2014.
• Balancing courage and confidence with humility - It’s a must to surround yourself with others who continue to push you and keep your ego in check.
• The attributes of a Top Gun instructor: Willing to learn and Able to teach. Great leaders seem to have those same qualities.
• Dave’s choice to volunteer to fight on the ground is what led him to meet Jocko Willink and thus change his life. Stepping up and doing a job that others don’t want to do, and taking that responsibility can lead to amazing opportunities.
• A Top Gun pilot must balance courage and confidence with humility.
• You need a great support group around you to keep in check.
• Your ego, however, can be helpful at times. "It allows you to do things that others say can't be done."
• How to deal with negative self-talk?
  • "We all deal with it. Relax. Take a step back. Breathe. Detach from the situation."