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Notes:
- Arthur grew up with one goal - To be the world’s greatest French horn player. He learned that striving for something was fungible across all fields of life. It was a great laboratory for learning.
- Intrinsic vs Extrinsic motivation - Intrinsic motivation comes from an internal desire to accomplish a goal, while extrinsic motivation comes from external rewards and praise.
- "Misery comes from excessive auto-focus." Misery comes from thinking about yourself too much and not enough about helping others.
- The curse of the strive... All happiness comes from progress.
- The arrival is not the goal.
- How to be happy while striving:
- Be grateful - Write it down. Do it daily.
- Always look to help others.
- "All research is 'me-search.'"
- The Four Idols:
- Money, Power, Pleasure, and Prestige/Fame. We talked through ours… What are yours?
- The Four Focus areas to help with happiness
- Faith
- Family
- Friendship
- Serving Others
- Define your purpose. Write it down. Understand why you're here. Mine = "To inspire others to value and pursue excellence." Too many people are ok with mediocrity. We should strive for more.
- Oprah Winfrey is the same person everywhere she goes. She is genuine and authentic to all.
- Arthur's column helped Oprah stay positive and happy through the pandemic. So much so that she called him and asked to meet. And eventually, write a book together. That book became a #1 best-seller.
- #1 Life Hack: "Don't lie ever."
- Arthur is jacked (in great shape).
- Taking care of your body helps with unhappiness.
- Wake up 1.5 hours before dawn. Work out hard. Lift weights. Do challenging cardio.
- Life/Career Advice:
- Don't worry too much about the first job out of college. Don't sacrifice relationships.
- Bring love to every relationship and be great at what you do. Be excellent.
- Emanate love and show excellence.