The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk
#274: Heidi Grant - How To Get People To Help You (Reinforcements)
The Learning Leader Show
"It's not about being good. It's about being better. Be in a constant state of continuous improvement."
Show Notes:
- Commonalities of sustaining excellence:
- "All management is change management"
- "What's made you successful in the past may not be the case in the future."
- "How can I learn to be a better leader?'
- "A constant state of continuous improvement"
- "You've never arrived."
- "It' not about being good. It's about being better."
- "Focus on getting better, rather than being good."
- Growth mindset helps you find enjoyment in what you do
- "Focus on what you will do, not what you won't"
- Willpower -- Need to be specific. Get to a level of specificiaty
- Make steady progress
- "Have realistic optimism. I will succeed, but it will be hard."
- How to define success?
- Intrinsic vs extrinsic goals:
- A connected-ness to other people
- Autonomy - Do what feels authentic
- Being effective - Inherently get satisfaction by "I'm making things by making things happen in the world"
- "Human beings are wired to to want to feel effective" -- It creates lasting happiness
- Balance - Fundamental things stand in our way. "We all have issues with not being great at everything."
- Why don't we ask others for help when we need it? The Milgrim subway experiement
- What does a helper need from you?
- Must ask and help the helper be successful
- Why we need to eliminate the phrase "Can I pick your brain?"
- Just say what you want. Be direct.
- Send questions in advance. Create opportunities for helpers to be effective
- "When you ask someone for help, you're giving them the opportunity to feel amazing"
- Reinforcements - Extra personnel sent to increase the strength of an army or similar force --> Something that makes a behavior more likely
- Why joining The Learning Leader Circle is a good idea
- Use the "Get To Know You Document"
"When you ask someone for help, you're giving them the opportunity to feel amazing."
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